It can all end in a moment

[Stella-L]

When I drink too much, I severely lose my temper. This time has resulted in him breaking up with me. I feel so hurt because I've forgiven him for numerous things that I could've left him for. The person I become when I drunk isn't me he knows that. I don't know how to get my drinking in check or how to avoid that behavior when drink.

[Emily16]

Hi! Have you tried giving up drinking?

[Stella-L in reply to Emily16]

Yes I have but he feels like I need to be able to find a balance between drinking and not blowing up. I truly embarrassed him and myself. I just want to be able to have discipline and go out with friends like a normal person. And my temper is only triggered by him. When I'm out with other friends, I don't lose it

[Emily16 in reply to Stella-L]

Then maybe it was best for him to leave. If you can drink with friends and have no problem then the only problem I see would be him. What do you think?

[gogogirl in reply to Stella-L]

You do what is right for YOU not this other person. Please remember that. You were a person before you met him, right?

[kenster1 in reply to Stella-L]

hi im sorry to hear that.alcohol is responsible for about a half of all break ups.once the demon drink gets to us and tempers flare its usually to late to be reasoned with.have you sought help from the AA that should be your first port of call.how does he trigger you?.maybe its better if you said last orders forever at the bar as drink can ruin everything if we lose control of it.

[gogogirl]

Have you tried giving up drinking? I do not , but it seems like it is not a good situation or a healthy one. Perhaps ( USA) you could contact AA when you are ready. I wish you the best.

[gogogirl in reply to gogogirl]

What I meant is I do not drink Thank you.

[HopeandOptimism]

Hi Stella, sorry for the pain you are dealing with. I applaud you for being so honest about what happens when you drink. Drinking can lead us down negative paths and severely impact our relationships. It sounds like you want to deal with this. You might want to consider going to Alcoholicis Anonymous, there are meetings everywhere and the meetings are seven days a week and usually very easy to find a meeting time that can work. This would allow you to be with people who have faced the same thing as you, for you to share your heart and your story and get the guidance you need. You will be accepted and encouraged and strengthened. AA is a really healthy way to work through drinking issues. Please consider it! While you are grieving your relationship, it might be best to fight for yourself right now rather than for the relationship. If you are meant to be together, that will happen but you have to take care of you first. I wish you well and I wish you strength.

[Stella-L in reply to HopeandOptimism]

Thank you so much!