Don't tell your problems to people

“ Don't tell your problems to people: eighty percent don't care; and the other twenty percent are glad you have them. “

-Lou Holtz

Thats why i just come here. Friends and family dont want to hear your shit.

[TheEraOfSarah]

Really not sure Lou Holtz is who I would take life advice from, especially concerning mental health. Good friends and family are supportive.

[Strongheartforever in reply to TheEraOfSarah]

Exactly. That quote just sucks. It’s not true. There are so many caring people in the world, overflowing with love and concern. That’s a cold stance to take and it’s just a big lie. The thing is, there is a give and take. To be supported, you also need to support others. Then it works perfectly. Keeping the pain inside won’t help you or the relationships you need to thrive. This word: intimacy. It’s what happens when there is honesty and vulnerability between two people and there, where there once was just air, is a BOND. That’s how you bond and become part of another person. What I’m trying to say is that telling someone your deepest saddest thoughts can help heal you because that’s how you build a deep friendship, only through honesty, vulnerability and mutual support. That’s the tricky part.

[Stilltrying_ in reply to Strongheartforever]

Perfect response Strongheartforever. It's so true. x

[hypercat54]

I must admit that I differ from the others and do agree with the quote. This has been my experience in life but then I have never had a support network. It must be nice to have one. That's one reason I never read self help things coz they all say to rely on your strong supportive network. I always think well I haven't got one so I can never get better then!

Maybe I am more cynical than many. x

[Agora1 in reply to hypercat54]

You are not being cynical hypercat. I am my own support system. x

[hypercat54 in reply to Agora1]

That's a great way of putting it! x

[Agora1]

Rubicon2017, sounds like you have been stung by a lot of those around you who eventually close their ears and eyes in what you say. Because it's something they cannot see or understand as well as it keeps going on and on, life goes on for them though.. And it should.

However, it is a very hurt feeling when one day you turn around and no one is there to support you. They all went their own way. More power to you Rubicon. A lot of people on this forum are blessed in having loved ones who care and are there for them. Most of the posts will be about the other half who are lonely and sad that no one seems to care.

And so this site goes on to support and comfort all. Tell your problems to us, we care, we listen and most of all we understand. x

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

I agree. Not everyone’s family and friends will support me. Not everyone have the same friends and family. If that was the case for me, i wouldnt be using this site.

[Delanna]

I think when you are expressive is what truly matters. Sure there.are others who don't care but there are some who actually do care . Actions speak louder than words .

Your problem is your own problem but it has a right to be heard and addressed. If they do not want to hear your concerns then that is their problem.

How sad though because you got a mind full of emotions and they do not want to listen what is going on in your mind?

Swallow your pride and taste my thoughts is what I would say.

Wish you well