Decisions

What are your guys Thoughts on being friends with guys that you had a thing with or was your ex while you’re still in a relationship with someone else

[Hidden]

Asking as you don't see the person regularly otherwise if more often I don't thisnk its right,it leaves new partner feeling awkward and that could break down the relationship. Who's friends with thier ex then?

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I think if we are both mature about it and they were friends before they dated then maybe it’s okay

[IheartDogs]

It might depend on each person's view of the friendship. If there are clear boundaries then it's very possible to have a healthy friendship.

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My thought is that to give your current relationship the best chance possible, I wouldn't be spending time with ex's or anyone you've been intimate with.

[Hidden]

No, I can’t see that as appropriate! If you’re talking about guys with whom you’ve had a previous sexual relationship with, then no, it’s best to be friends from afar. Too familiar and possibly too easy to fall back into. Plus, if you’re moving forward with your life, you don’t need past relationships messing with your head. Be friends from afar and leave the past in the past. Wishing you the best!

[Windy101]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as you are truly friends, and there are no left-over feelings still to be resolved. Your new relationship should also be on board with it. If it makes that person uncomfortable, then you may want to consider letting it go. That sounds harsh, but if it were the other way around, you might not like it. For me, a lot would depend on your new relationship and how that person felt about it.