Ugh

[Tripster]

I’m so tired of my family telling me that I’m too pessimistic! That I bring everyone down all the time because i don’t look towards the bright side. It’s really ticking me off!

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Your profile says you haven't told anyone how you feel.....if you told your family they'd probably understand and be less apt to accuse you of being a downer.

[Tripster in reply to Hidden]

I actually just told my dad today because I had no choice in doing so. It sucked. No one else knows yet.

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Why does that reality upset you?

[Tripster in reply to Hidden]

Because it hurts when I get told that no one likes who I am. That I bring everyone down all the time. I guess it’s just something that makes me upset and idk why. My dad finds it weird too I guess.

[Hidden in reply to Tripster]

It’s not you they dislike, it’s your current outlook. There’s a big difference! You’re fine, it’s just your problem right now. If it’s upsetting you, try looking for the positive side of things. You will feel better even for just trying. 🌷🌞🌷

[rach1402]

People are usually intolerant of what they don't understand, older generations are generally worse. If you tell people you will probably find you get one of two reactions, either they will try to be supportive and understanding and if you're really lucky they might even do a bit of research. Unfortunately others will be judgemental and intolerant which makes you feel worse about yourself. If you try to make them understand they will make you feel like your illness is more of a problem for them than it is for you. They don't get it and will tell you all sorts of clichés like 'pull yourself together', 'what have you got to be depressed about?' and 'it can't be that bad' 🙄 like it's that simple. In my experience it's pointless and exhausting trying to get any kind of support from those kinds of people and it just makes you feel guilty for 'making a fuss about nothing'. Far better to reach out to the first kind of people and try to keep your issues out of your relationships and interactions with the second kind of people. I'm not saying you should cut them out of your life completely unless they are having a toxic effect on you overall, just try not to depend on those people for support. Be kind to yourself, it's not your fault you're having problems. I hope you find the people, strategies and if necessary the medication that can help you. Best wishes x

[nightingale1977]

HI there, I agreed with @rach1402. I feel that sometimes people react the way to react not because they don;t care, it is really because they don’t know how to handle the emotions. I understand how trying to talk about how you feel and getting the negative response you weren’t expecting. You need to know there is nothing wrong talking about what are you going through and how much it’s affecting you emotionally. Also, you don’t need their approval to get better. WHen you wanna talk about it, it’s first step of getting better. So I can see your desire of wanting to be well. Do consider talking to a counselor to help you cope. Praying for you. GOd bless...