Rough night

[ManUtd7]

Had a real bad night of anxiety and no sleep. Trying to be positive and open myself up to new friends but feel like I'm alienating them instead. I'm so self-conscious and feel like I'm trying too hard to make a 'real' friend. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one making an effort so I just shut down. I don't like who I am at times and feel people don't either until they get to know me. Am I being to impatient?? Trying to stay positive but my thoughts won't allow it.

[Hidden]

Hey you've got to remain positive. Are they your true friends? I think a true friend is there for you through the good & bad. My friends are on here, I'm very grateful for that! Fight the good fight , you are worth it! Wishing you peace of mind. Love & Hugs!!!

[ManUtd7 in reply to Hidden]

I have a couple of new friends at work but it's hard to get to know them and me since we only get to talk for very short times if at all. I don't see them after work since I work a slightly different shift but I did invite them to my cookout in a few weeks. It's been forever since I've made a new friend so I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I hope they become true friends but I'm so afraid of ruining that chance. Thanks for your reply. It really means a lot.

[Hidden in reply to ManUtd7]

Stay positive, it breeds positive, no lie. I understand the anxiety all to well. Just be you & take your time , it will work out for you! Don't be so hard on yourself. We have a tendency to be that way & shouldn't. I wish for you the best!!! Peace, love & hugs!!!

[Strongest123]

Hello. Try to meditate if you can, it helps ease the mind with all the negative thoughts and anxiety. Eliminate all types of coffee and caffeine containing drinks. Drink lots of water, sometimes if the body is dehydrated you can feel a bit anxious. And always be yourself, don’t try and change who you are, so others will accept you. Stay the course. Blessings. Samson.

[ManUtd7 in reply to Strongest123]

Thanks!!! I have cut out a lot of caffeine and trying to exercise more. I appreciate your advice.

[Choccymilk0807]

Yep I have definitely been there too. It is hard to make friends with anxiety depression hanging over your head. Sometimes, you don’t know if they are faking it etc. I know it is terrifying, but I’m happy that you have reached out to them and invited them to hangout out of work. Oftentimes, I am not brave enough to do this because I have abandonment and rejection issues but the truth is you’ve got to give your love to people and the right people will give it back. Unfortunately, sometimes you will give your love/friendship/time to the wrong people. But don’t let this make you afraid to try again. Building up your walls will only hurt you. So be bold and love and love and love and you will get love back.

[ManUtd7 in reply to Choccymilk0807]

Thanks for your great advice. Yes, hard to tell if they are just being nice only because they have to work with me. Hopefully they come to my cookout so our friendship has a chance to grow. Peace & Love.

[Choccymilk0807]

And sending you the same 💕