Vulnerability

[alexah512]

You all don’t know me personally, which is why I may not feel as affected to be vulnerable. However, I’m suspicious of everyone I meet. I feel like everyone is out to get me to know my weaknesses. I’ve been in relationships, friendships, where I’ve shown my most vulnerable side. They have either betrayed me or used it to their advantage. At my job we’ve been having to share about outselves & our lives. Ofc I don’t have to tell them everything. But even the smallest things that I tell them I feel so uncomfortable. I don’t like people knowing about me because of my past experiences. It makes me emotional & I begin to lose hope on who I can trust, if that’s anyone. I’ve been in situations where I share deep thoughts with others and then something may happen between us and they act different. It bothers me so much because they knew things about me that I wouldn’t regularly share. It’s just heartbreaking and it makes me doubt so much about who I even talk to.

[IheartDogs]

Really glad that you're reaching out here. Feeling betrayed and let down by others will of course make it difficult to trust in the future and I'm so sorry that you have those feelings. What I've been learning is that it's not the situation that affects us but how we interpret it and perceive it. In your case, what if you were to have a different perception? Perhaps you could think about how you were genuine, honest and authentic with folks... you can take pride in that and be proud of who you are. If others choose to walk away from you, then they have to be the ones to live with that decision. As I see it, you are a kind and caring individual who shares yourself unselfishly with others. There will be other genuine people who appreciate you.... I'm one of them😊 Keep reaching out to us for support, that's what we're here for!

[alexah512 in reply to IheartDogs]

That is so true. But I guess it’s hard to keep that mindset when it’s something that’s happening consistently. It makes me think that it may have something to do with me

[Marshall64]

The good thing about a forums like this is that you can share and be totally anonymous. Also no judgement. We all have our own issues.

[alexah512 in reply to Marshall64]

Very true

[Hidden]

Honesty is kinda hard to find in people.you are being honest with people around you which is a good quality.I'm impressed you are your trueself and not a fake one .

[alexah512 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, hopefully different & more genuine people will gravitate to me