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I recently separated from my partner who I have children with. And I've realised I'm more to blame for the separation than I first thought. I realised my anxiety led me to being more reclusive and affected my behaviour as I started to nag and snap more and I didn't even realise. It did not hit me until I had my little boy over the weekend and for the first time in a long time I broke down into tears. And I've become very emotional since. And I'm struggling to do normal basic day to day things like eating and sleeping. I just wondered if anyone had any advice or tips to deal with this ?

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Are you on any medication? If your nagging and snapping was caused by anxiety or depression then it was out of your control. Talk to your doctor and see what they suggest. Make it your goal to become a better happier person. It takes time but you’ll get there

I agree with the above reply. If this is affecting your ability to function, then it's time to see a doctor.

Do you feel heavy with regret? Can you name the emotions you’re experiencing and are they connected to traumatic events? Breathe deep and don’t hold back tears especially if you haven’t had them in awhile. It’s cleansing. ❤️

I’m catching your comment ‘I’m more to blame’. I’ve felt that way before and it can bring up very intense stuff. Just be honest with yourself and compassionate to yourself. The past is passed but today is for whatever you focus on. Get help in the focusing is too cloudy for you. Talking through it here is a good start. It’s good you had time with your son. 🤗

I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling with this. It can be difficult to deal with a load that feels too heavy to bear. I know from personal experience that anxiety can be triggered for different reasons. Maybe being able to talk to someone you really trust can help resonate some of the feelings you are having? Have you been to a doctor or counselor before about this? Break ups can be so hard. I once had a breakup that was due to his anxiety (his choice) and then after he left I became depressed for a month. I slept almost nonstop, sobbed for long periods of time because my heart was in so much pain. I moved in with my parents during that time until I eventually found peace. I have some great articles & resources that may be helpful to you (as they have been to me). I can share it with you, if you'd like? I read your post and my heart just felt for you…hoping today is better and so glad you reached out.

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