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It's personal, isn't it?

I was sooo hurt and angry. At work I am only allowed to do certain things, due to my conditions, as recommended by my psychiatrist. Only certain people know the details of why I am only allowed to do at work. The shift commanders know what I am allowed to do. The rest don't, but in the beginning of these changes I did inform most member of my duties and briefly gave a reason. Plus a higher rank also informed them of my duties... Now they will ask me: are you not normal that you can't do a certain things? or ask me why and when I say it's for personal reasons, they start making jokes and question me futher. I told them that if they had a problem that they should talk to the branch commander. I abruptly left. I don't have to share my medical details with everyone, especially I don't have to explain myself in depth to them. When I say that something is personal, I mean it.

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Well, as long as you can do the job, that is what matters. Sorry this happened to you.

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I'm so sorry you had that experience. It's the last thing someone needs to hear when they are struggling. I think it's strong of you to decide not to tell them your medical history. It's no one's business-you told who you had to and responded the right way when they came to you.

So many people just don't understand how anxiety can affect us and because of that, I believe that's where those kind of comments come from. Doesn't make it ok and it hurts. But I don't think it's personal.

It sounds like you needed to leave. Do you feel better now that you've left?

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Thanks a lot, yes I feel better now.

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bullies are bullies...and if they get a whiff of someone who may be a target...then it's like blood in the water and the sharks start to circle. Everything you did was correct...and if you get any further harassment....let them know that they don't need to worry about what you do or don't do in your job...they only need to worry about keeping their job and mind their own business. Walk away...if they are throwing a line out and baiting you ...don't get hooked...their idiots..so let them spin around....blow them off...never give your power to anyone...you answer to your supervisor and that's all you need to concern yourself with.

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Thanks, needed to hear that.

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your already doing good and saying the right things...now get that suit of armor on for this situation....it's okay to have a thicker skin at work....work is work...and none of those people are your friends....so don't give them any of your power...they mean nothing to you by the end of the day....your job is important and your important enough to your employer or you wouldn't be there......so blow them off.

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True, thanks for your inspiring attitude

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You have that one right. Stand your ground with them & don't allow them to take your power, remember that's yours!!!! Love & Hugs!!!

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Thank you xoxo

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My pleasure! Love & Hugs!!!

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Understood, but you can imagine that they would ask questions when allowances are being made for you and not them. That’s a natural reaction from coworkers, I think. Your reply to them is acceptable and keeping your reasons personal is also appropriate. Just keep doing your job and they will get accustomed to the changes. Wishing you the best!!

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that's true...they may have thought you were getting special treatment or excluded from doing as much work as they are for the same pay....but it does not mean they have a right to say anything to you about it....like you said....they can talk to your boss if they have any questions....stay away from them...and just be polite and diplomatic....

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