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[WhiteShark]

I'm crying again and my partner just told me that I should stop thinking about negative things. It's not like I choose to do this to myself. I just can't help it at times.

[Hidden]

It's not easy, try to get something to distract you, change those thoughts.

[WhiteShark in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your response. I'm trying to divert my attention by watching comedy series but I still go back to the same thoughts afterwards. This has been going on for months now. And instead of getting better, my feelings are getting worst. It scares me

[Hidden in reply to WhiteShark]

Have you been to a doctor?

If you can get a distraction that makes you actually concentrate on it then it might work better, get something to give you a challenge with a goal at the end.

[WhiteShark in reply to Hidden]

My doctor advised that I speak to people about all my bottled up emotions. She said this does not sound like post partum because I love my child and also I don't have thoughts of hurting him. She strongly suggest that I speak up my mind, but talking to my friends and family became harder because I don't think that they'll understand. Some of my friends are stuck to the idea that I am still that strong woman that they knew before. But I'm breaking and they refuse to see it

[Hidden in reply to WhiteShark]

Well you can talk on here, say anything you need to say, plus on here you are writing it which is also good.

This is a great place.

[WhiteShark in reply to Hidden]

Yes. I will use this opportunity to share my thoughts everytime. I hope this can help lessen the weight and negative thoughts soon

[Hidden in reply to WhiteShark]

I hope so too

[Angelfox2002]

I’m so sorry, crying sucks! It’s become my life story and I’m not liking it! Is your partner usually supportive and they seem to be dismissing your tears this time? I wish it was that easy... just flip a switch and whoila, thinking positive makes everything better.... suddenly no more tears? People can be so insensitive, believe me my ex wishes he didn’t only know how to care by saying things like “stop thinking negative” - seriously.... Don’t they know us better than that, if it was that easy we would have it done! I’m sorry for my rant, I just understand your point a little bit too much!

[Hidden in reply to Angelfox2002]

People don't get it at all..

[WhiteShark in reply to Angelfox2002]

Thanks for sharing. It makes me feel at peace somehow knowing that I'm not the only one feeling this way. Although, I do feel sorry that you're in the same page. I can't feel his support at times like this. I don't think he understands how difficult my situation is and I can't force him to understand it as well. I don't know how he would have the sense to just see it for himself. See how miserable it feels right now

[Juliagail in reply to WhiteShark]

I’ve been there so many times! It was the hardest for me when my kids were small, they’re 16,13 and 10 now. It is an awfully lonely place. How about finding a mommy and me group? If you force yourself to go a few times you may meet other moms to connect with. Even if they don’t suffer the way we do, just making a connection with someone you have something in common with might be therapeutic.

[WhiteShark in reply to Juliagail]

Thank you for the suggestion. I'll see if I can find a mommy and me group nearby.

[Hidden]

Hello WhiteShark!

You can make the choice to think positively! It takes work, repetition, and practice. You can do it! You have to put forth all the effort! You are what you think!

[WhiteShark in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. I'm trying but seems like I'm getting nowhere

[Hidden in reply to WhiteShark]

Use distraction. I am re-gaining my inner chef!

[WhiteShark in reply to Hidden]

I'm trying to focus in taking care of my baby and by working but I still have these dark thoughts and sometimes I lose my will to try again. Thanks for your responses, I'll try harder

[fauxartist]

if your suffering from depression, the down side of this disease is a monster at times. You can feel despair and sadness...because it's chemical....there does not have to be a reason. And that's why people who don't have depression can't understand us.