Roommate Problems has me crazy

[MLS489]

Hello! I am a student and I am living 20,000 kms from Home in a House with 2 roommates. We really get along very good, but there is one of those two that, i really Think he Believe he is my mother, and he is all the time saying things like "you have to be careful with your keys" "you need to have always money on your Wallet" or "don´t be friends with him because he is fucked up".

And i know that he maybe is doing it because he caras about me, but i really can not live with him that way, and I want to tell him that without hurting him or making the roommate situation uncomfortable.

what should I do? This is driving me crazy

[fauxartist]

I would find a moment when just the two of you can talk alone..not when your eating, or either one of you has to be going anywhere for a while...then just say to them: 'you know I appreciate that your just trying to look out for me, and I haven't said anything about it because I really don't want to hurt your feelings, but I have to ask you to please stop treating me like a child....I understand your intensions are good....but I kinda already get that stuff from my mom, and it's why I was looking forward to living on my own, so I can grow up and do my own thing.'....if they don't take it well, or get defensive....don't buy into it, just say, your sorry they took it that way, but you needed to say it for your own space to be respected, and in the future, ... if you make a mistake's....you do...and will take responsiblitly yourself for it. And let it go....it's out there now....they can take it or leave it.

[hypercat54]

Hi good advice from faux. I would take the humour tact though and say something like 'Thanks but you are not my mother' and laugh. This would avoid any unpleasantness if you can do it in the right manner. x

[fauxartist in reply to hypercat54]

yeah...I thought that too....good point, would lighten the conversation right off the bat...

[mhunnell19]

It’s better to be honest upfront. I’ve had 2 bad roommates in my life, and have learned eventually if you bottle it up you will blow up and it’ll be a lot worse. Just explain how you feel and see where it gets you. Also, maybe talk to the other roommate and see if they have a similar issue with the person and maybe you two could talk to him together.