Fight

[Saph_Heart]

I just got into a fight with my girlfriend...because I didn't fight back, basically...And I was wondering if it's counted as abuse if someone who is supposed to love you and knows of your mental health and your insecurities, is it right for them to be angry about them...? I hurt so bad right now and I don't know what to do...

[Kneedsu]

I'm in the same shoes as you except it's my bf who does tat to me. I'vebeen trying to figure out why he does or says things that he knows will hurt me. I've done many personal research and reflecting about this and the only thing I can come up with us that it's their human selfish desires and needs taking over. It is always easier to satisfy ones needs more than someone else, even if they're someone you love. I know this is hard to accept as I'm still struggling to myself. I hope she eventually turns around to apologize because that will be help you find peace with this issue. How is your line of communication with your gf?

[RedwineFL in reply to Kneedsu]

Time to try to move on. Easier said than done, but physical abuse is not an excuse. If your partner does love you they would not do it and would show remorse if it was in rage. Try to talk to someone close to get help. I hope you do. There are others out there that will love you for who you are without being abusive.

[RedwineFL]

No. If someone truly loves you, they will try to help you and be supportive. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship, regardless if you’re male or female. This counts for verbal abuse as well. If you are getting verbally or physically abused, it’s time to speak with a trusted family or friend and decide on a plan to get out of the situation. If you have no one and believe you are in danger of getting physically harmed I encourage you to call

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[Meerkat1993]

Moving on would be the best for you. It would be a temporary pain that leads to a healthier you. Toxic people are manipulative and can make you think that you're a problem when you're not. Don't let people do this to you.

[torpe]

That sounds like emotional abuse to me. I was in the same boat as you before; i had a boyfriend who used my insecurities against me when talking and basically comparing me to a girl friend that he was in love with. At the time, i didn’t really talk about depression with him, but i did let some vital things slip in a various moments of weakness. Love isn’t supposed to hurt at all and you deserve someone that treats you better than that. Love is warmth and support. Throwing something back in your face and causing fights because you don’t fight back is preying on what she may find is weakness and in my opinion it’s very wrong.

[fauxartist]

If your being dumped on because this person has their own problems and is projecting them on you....then no....it's not alright.... I would suggest you calmly and with diplomacy...when the time is appropriate and you have time, not before rushing to work or first thing when you get home type thing....then ask your partner....what's up....I'm feeling your trying to express something going on with you, and I am not the root of it all...,and it's hurting my feelings and driving a wedge.... and if after that it's still 'you, you, you'....then that's another issue and decision you have to make...