Anxious and ill

[olmosm84]

I have a constant worry/fear from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed. My father is ill and now my mother. It is a horrible feeling thinking the worse before the better. I try breathing, I try thinking positive, but it's not working. I can't eat, if I try I start to worry to the point that I can't eat again. My stomach hurts, I feel like i have to do something to get out of this. I just don't know how. Any advice helps.

[olmosm84]

Thank you, I will definitely give it a try

[Hidden]

Hi I so understand your feelings of anxiety, keep deep breathing it takes practice, my mother has COPD & anxiety & so much more, so I know how tough it is to see parents going through illness, so sorry you have that two fold. You need help to cope with this as your parents need you to be strong, go see your doctor and tell him your not coping well, things will get better for you the stronger you feel, as for your parents all you can do is be there to support them, this will mean a lot to them. I hope you get the support you need, just reach out, there is always someone who can help, even if its only this site. Stay grounded you will come through this.

Best wishes to you & both parents.

Regards Jan x

[olmosm84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I really appreciate everything you had to say. Talking to someone else about it makes a difference. Thank you, I will take it one day at a time to become physically and emotionally stronger.

[Hidden in reply to olmosm84]

You got this. XX

[olmosm84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, and best wishes to you as well. Like you said, parents will appreciate the fact that we did everything we could within our reach to help. Take it one day at a time. You will be okay.

[Okidoke]

I know the feeling, been very sick over my ailing mother, hasnt gotten better and had to go seek help. Im getting better and taking it one day at a time. Just dont be afraid to love your family while they are around, show them everyday. You can rest easy knowing you were there for them and have them comfort. But, see someone and let them know all of this, they can help you through it and anything that comes after. Turn the mind into an advantage instead of a roadblock. You can do it, you can take back your life. This will get better.

[olmosm84 in reply to Okidoke]

Yes, you are exactly right. They will appreciate you being there for them. I did schedule an appointment with a therapist to make it a little easier. I am taking it one day at a time and trying to think positive with a more relaxed state so I can be there to help. It's not easy, but it will get better. Thank you. Best wishes and positive vibes for you as well.

[Hidden in reply to olmosm84]

I’ve had this fear too regarding my dad, combined with other stressors, turned into chronic insomnia and barely making it through work, constant exhausted feeling and not eating much. I got to a doctor and am on day 3 of Remeron and a small dose of Abilify. I’m feeling so much calmer. I also realized I’m not pursuing something meaningful to me and it’s causing me to focus on negative things. I am going to quit my job and go back to school, life is too short to stay stuck. I will pray for you ❤️

[olmosm84 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, prayers for you as well. I have been giving my cares to God and he listens. You are absolutely right. Life is way too short to live worried or anxious over things we cannot control. I think we will be alright just have to take it one day at a time. 🙏