Need suggestions

[Madison35]

I’m trying to find the best way to cope with depression. I’m lost. Feel so alone. Hiding behind a smile that isn’t real. I don’t know what to do anymore

[Optimistic_22]

Madison I totally understand just know your not alone. This is a state of mind and can change with positive reinforcement. Yoga , walking positive social groups. I feel sad but know feeling are forever changing and you have to experience the bad to appreciate the good. Do things that you enjoy. Hobbies or find new hobbies. Thats my goal now. I'm trying to find ways to make myself happy. I'm here if you need. Life is rough but it does get better.

[Madison35 in reply to Optimistic_22]

I’ve been feeling like this for years and I don’t know what makes me happy anymore. Anything I do I just feel like it isnt enough anymore

[Optimistic_22 in reply to Madison35]

Well I get it but evaluate your life maybe there's something that you need to change. Negative influences are just unkind people to unfriend. Try a therapist to deal with unwanted pain emotionally. Know and have comfort that someone else always has it worse. Volunteer to help less fortunate. Stay positive don't let negative thoughts control or ruin day. Health diet and exercise. I lost my fiancé of 15 years been with since high school. 8 months ago. Worst thing ever but I have to keep going. Hope this is helpful. You have to fix your underlying problem. Whatever it may be. Anxiety can cause depression also buried emotions. So be positive, talk to therapists, hobbies look up stuff that might interest you on Facebook. Hobbies that have are positive such as yoga art dancing. Hobbies may vary for you just positive things. Talk to someone. You are important. 😀Life can be beautiful.🌈

[BeenthereB4]

Hi Madison35. I can relate. I'm not sure what "happy" feels like any more but I can't say others are to blame. I am to blame. I don't take time for myself.. too busy trying to be there for other people. Which is nice and I feel this is somewhat of my calling but I need to invest more in me. The route to feeling happy is not to talk about being happy or to think about being happy...it involves doing. What is something you can do that in the process of or following will evoke the feeling of happy from you...For me it is doing activities - a chance to to get out of my own head and become an active participant in my environment. I am 36 but I know if I did go-karts or paint ball it will give me an adrenaline rush and a feeling of joy. I also find joy from challenging myself and doing something that I didn't think I could ever do. The hardest part about all of this was acknowledging I need to do this for me and just taking that first step. Hope this helps!

[Shudood]

Hi Madison

I suffered from depression 5 months ago and have been on antidepressants since, it started with this feeling u explained Which led me to panic attacks then depression and finally taking pills now.

The pills did a big difference but i wish i didnt have to take pills, so what im trying to tell u is that u must fight it by convincing yourself that u are fine and that life is worth it and that this is all in my head, my subconcious is trying to control me but i am not gonna let this happen cause you are stronger but its convincing you that u are weaker, but the truth is u are stronger than ur sibconcious. Keep seeing people, keep yourself busy, dont stay alone for long unless u are watching tv and really concentrating or sleepy and need to go to bed.

Again dont let this feeling drag u to other conditions like it did with me.

I wish u all the best

[Vonnah]

I don't know what to do anymore either. I'm feeling really depressed at the moment. Sorry you feel this way.

[AKikka]

Please don't smile if you do not feel like it. Don't mask your true feelings. Let them pour out. It's like a wound that has festered and the debris needs out. I also feel as I need to pretend for people to stay beside me. And I did for as long as I could before I got to feel that each smile was killing me. Please, please, don't force yourself, allow yourself to feel sad. People won't be able to care for you if they don't know that you're in pain.

[Madison35]

Thanks everyone for the comments. I just really don’t know what’s wrong with me. I try to do stuff that once made me happy and it doesn’t help anymore. I can’t afford to do much, all I do is work and sit around my house. I stopped caring about the way my house looks, I don’t take care of it anymore. I have never taken time for myself and I still can’t. I have no friends, I try. I can’t talk to my husband cause he can’t handle the truth and it does no good anyway, after a few days or weeks things go back to bn the same

[AKikka in reply to Madison35]

It's a struggle when you feel that you haven't anybody beside you. I am not going to say that you're delusional and that those people are really there, but believe: you're not as lonely as you think: you're reaching for people, for a friendly hand. You're here. Your husband doesn't need to understand to love you. You are loved. You know that you want to do better. It breaks my heart to read you because those thoughts are so familiar. I wish I could reach you, help you find new things that can move you, refresh the wonder of those things you used to love.