Relationship and depression trouble

[llrrbb]

Hello I am new here.

I have been struggling with depression for a while now. I started dating this guy while I was depressed but it got a lot worse. We have been dating for almost 2 years. Our relationship has been getting worse because of my depression . We fight a lot and I get irritated and mad for no reason and I don’t know what to do.

If anyone is in a relationship and going through the same thing or have before , please message me. Thanks everyone.

[AloneandScared]

Unfortunately often times people that do not suffer with depression do not understand it. I’m new here as well and it seems that there are many helpful and compassionate people here. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there!!!!

[llrrbb in reply to AloneandScared]

Thanks so much!

[Carry-On]

I currently struggle with depression as well, and have been in a relationship for over 6 months. It has taken a huge toll on our relationship. I constantly find myself lashing out at him, getting angry for no reason, not seeing things from his perspective, etc. And rightfully so, he gets frustrated. What is important here is having that open dialogue to talk about what you are going through so that he understands. That is not to say that your actions are right by any means, but there is an underlying cause of these emotions. In doing so, it is so incredibly important that he is supportive of you. If any guy does not want to stay around because you have a medical condition, he was not right for you in the first place. And I do understand that it might be difficult for a lot of great men to handle this type of situation after a certain period of time, and if you aren't doing anything about it then it would be an appropriate time for him to leave. But to avoid this from happening its important to try and do something about it. Have your boyfriend get you out of the house and do something, whether that be related to something your passionate about or to the gym (this has been really helpful). You and him both making this effort together will pay off in the end. There are bad days for sure, but with open communication & support - it does get better. I hope this was helpful and I wish you all the best!

[llrrbb in reply to Carry-On]

Thanks so much! This was super helpful, thanks for taking the time to respond back!!