Unrealistic expectations

[Aorli]

Idk why this started but it seems since I've become a stay at home mom and have been dealing with anxiety it seems I have a picture of how I should be in my head. Most people think this is unrealistic but I feel like I'm not functioning well. I see others around me working and living and here I am unsure of how to function as a person. I know I should be able to do normal day to day things out of the house but I get anxious no matter what it is. Any idea how I'm feeling? I have this picture in my head of "how to be a mom" and how "normal" I should feel about living but I seem to struggle with everything.

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry your struggling, but your just realistically trying to find your footing as well as maybe dealing with a bit of anxiety. I know everyone talks about meds and therapy on this site, but it does help a lot of us. I don't think everyone out there around you knows as much as you think about being 'normal'. Everyone has stuff, really, your not alone. There is no set manual on how to be the perfect mom, and if you truly like being at home, that's okay too, if you are having anxiety about going out, then maybe talk to your doctor. For sure talking here is safe and these are good people.

[Aorli in reply to fauxartist]

I just see everyone out enjoying living their lives and I feel like I'm just constantly afraid to go out because of how I'll feel when my anxiety starts it's the worst

[fauxartist in reply to Aorli]

remember that we don't really know what people are going through, they could be having anxiety too my friend. Your not alone, and getting help with the anxiety is only hopefully going to make your life better. There is no magic pill out there that cures all ills, but I take an antidepressant that works pretty good, my life is better.

[Aorli in reply to fauxartist]

Yeah I just really want to be able to cope and get on with my life without medication

[fauxartist in reply to Aorli]

understand that, maybe look into some therapy to help with anxiety, or get into some art class, or do something at home that's creative and keeps your mind busy.

[Aorli in reply to fauxartist]

I did counseling for a few months that seemed to helo. It usually just acts up when I go anywhere outside the house other than like walks. I used to have it at home but I got over that.