Triggers/Anxiety...Need tips

[Jill032093]

Been really stressed out lately and it's worsening my anxiety, I could use some tips or techniques to help calm my anxiety down.

[Agora1]

Hi Jill032093, Welcome to the Anxiety Forum...What I have found helps me is to practice relaxation daily. I go to YouTube and type in Audio Meditation/DeepBreathing. Even 5-10 minute videos are a good respite in calming the mind and body when stress is out of control. I personally also use it upon awakening for 15-20 min as well as before going to sleep at night. It's a good balance between stress and relaxation. In between I use deep breathing as my "go to" As you can see it is a practiced daily technique which helps the best. Glad you found the forum. Breathe xx

[Jill032093 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for your suggestion. Do you think yoga would work?

[Agora1 in reply to Jill032093]

Definitely Yoga would be an excellent form of release for stress. x

[km147]

Hi! Welcome there are so many things you can try to help calm you down! What works for me may not work for you. I still have trouble maintaining my anxiety even after trying different things. For me watching tv and excercising on a daily basis (usually at the same time) really helps prevent me from having an anxiety attack. I have social anxiety and it’s nit terribly severe but it does come from a lot of low self esteem and I tend to compare myself to other people. Sometimes I have to remind myself of my blessings (kind of dumb but it helps me). Or if o find myself falling into my anxiety I will actually try to think about to logically. I would ask myself why exactly I am feeling this way? Is it really worth making myself feel bad? I hope you find something to help you! Good luck

[Jill032093 in reply to km147]

Thanks. How do you deal with triggers if I may ask because my mom is honestly my biggest trigger.

[km147 in reply to Jill032093]

I have the same issue with my. Mother as well. she always means well and I'm sure your mother does too. In terms of the triggers, I try and take myself out of the situation. For me it's social anxiety. So I would excuse myself to go to the bathroom if I feel it coming on. I usually feel chest pain and tightness. Sometimes stepping out actually helps. if i am at home I'll try and go out. If I can't go out, I talk to a family member. if I am alone, I'll tell myself over and over again that it's (whatever the trigger may be) not a big deal. I guess my point with this long response is that it's a trial and error. You know yourself better than anyone else.

[Jill032093 in reply to km147]

I actually live with my fiancé but she lives 5 minutes away but that is good advice. It’s hard for me to ignore her and what she says because it’s normally negative or opposite of what I want.

[km147 in reply to Jill032093]

Maybe that is something you need to communicate with her before you get married! Sometimes people don't realize how their words are effecting you and that's not their fault. If you truly are meant to be with her, allow yourself to open up to her. Be honest and if she truly cares about you, she will change.

[Sewcoolsue]

Personally I find that journlling helps me a lot. I’ll write whatever I’m feeling besides the anxiety and what’s going on in my life at that moment or even the day before to see if I can spot a trigger or underlying feeling. Sometimes I can come up with a solution to help my circumstances or identify an area of conflict. If I can do that then that helps. Also, telling myself out loud this will pass, I’m not crazy, multiple times, or calling someone to just tlk relieves some of the anxiety or panic.

[akablonded]

Listening to music that you love can de-stress you. Surprisingly, just looking up at blue sky can sometimes help alleviate stress. My best stress-buster is my dog. A short walk outdoors with him, noticing the beauty that can be found in nature, helps me clear my head, and gives me an opportunity to meditate and calm myself for a few minutes. Of course, if you're taking any kind of prescribed medication for anxiety, you have continue to take it. And I also agree that yoga is an excellent de-stresser.

[emasherman89]

Something that helps me when I am having a bad day with depression and/or anxiety is to block everything out and put on some of your favorite music and you can also get an adult coloring book. or try a bath. Good luck and let us know what else you find that helps. <3

[fox006]

there are many ways to deal with stress and anxiety. the best way to do it is to embrace with out judging it. If you want to do this then I would recommend you to visit the site of self compassion. Whenever you notice that you are anxious,place your hand on your chest and say out loudly that this is the moment of suffering,I am really struggling,but i am not the only one who is going through this,it is normal human experience,everyone is fighting a war inside their mind,may I be compassionate with myself,may I forgive myself.

the second way,interpret your stress not as a threat but as a challenge, anxiety and excitement is quite same,you can turn your anxiety into excitement. Whenever you notice yourself anxious,tell yourself that I am excited,it is a challenge. If you want to know more about this you can seach on youtube " stress is goo,kelly mcgonical," and there is a book called,"performing under stress".

The third way, control your heart rate variability. You search videos of alan watkins performance model.

i hope you would find this helpful. Let me know,what works for you.

[Agora1 in reply to fox006]

thank you xx

[Hidden in reply to fox006]

I like how you say not to judge it.