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Does anyone feel hopeless?

Hello i have been struggling the last 2 days. Sometimes days are better, sometimes are worse. Today is one of the worse ones. Does anyone feel like days are the same, that you don't have any goal and life is like a circle, weeks are circles, Today is tuesday, tomorrow wednesday and so on.

I feel i am not expecting anything, i feel days are the same.

I am sorry i feel really depressed, it seems i can't even help myself

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When you are going through something painful, it's common to feel like we are mice on a spinning wheel. No end. I think you should fill your day with purpose. Have you tried volunteering? Try to do it at least once a week. Or a workout class. Or a hobby that is outside the house

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i am looking for a job so i hope i can get smth soon, i just my life is a constant battle and i don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. I have no dreams, no plans, nothing that i do makes me feel better

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I wasnt too bad yesterday trying to put life in perspective but i have struggled today also :-(

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When i feel everything can get better, i get to this again

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SAME!

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I get in that cycle.. I also go I really positive mindsets that are too farfetched almost manic in a way, and I get excited about everything and think I have a plan and feel really good about it. but then I realize all the work that goes into it that "normal" people aren't phased by and if I they are they don't talk about it. I am incredibly self aware and im not sure why but I have always voiced how I physically feel which can come off as dramatic considering with a panic disorder some of the sensations I feel are terrifying and exhausting. my boyfriend tells me to not think - just act. ha easier said than done. im kind of rambling bc I was really hyped and excited the last few days and im back in this cycle too. like I don't want to login to my bank website bc its too stressful and theres too many things I have to do like call them and like no can't do that right now. I feel bored with life and although I recently was able to go back to school when I thought that would never happen, I did it and I did well. I was doing well during the semester but since I am not an established resident yet of California classes are mad expensive - SO that means I have to wait six more months (then I will be established resident and classes will be affordable) and I know I should get a job but with my anxiety it seems impossible. money is becoming an issue and I can't really ask anyone for help. like I said Im rambling but I figured id start reading posts I relate with and ramble on here rather then the next person that texts me... I have been doin that and realized they don't relate and they don't want to hear. I wish I was feeling as positive as yesterday to give you some good advice but I feel the same. trapped. like I want my life to be giving and memorable and have a point. if I died today what would any one remember me for? this sounds narcissistic and maybe it is but I feel like I was out here to do something really big and to help people and I still haven't achieved that so I feel scared and empty. I guess maybe we just need to make small realistic goals that coincide with what we both are trying to achieve, and make them very realistic and little, and work towards it-cross it off, make the next small goal to get closer to the big one. thats all I got, sorry if this brought you down but thanks for your post , I always find comfort I being able to relate

xx

kirby Lynn

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I had goals, dreams and plans but now they are gone. I don't know what i want in my life, everything i liked don't make feel happy anymore. I feel so alone.

It seems i am gonna live like this for the rest of my life

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I feel you girl, its just a phase, these may just seem like words right now but nothing is permanent. I have been where you are right now, and im still feeling kind of low, however I am trying my absolute HARDESt to change my mind about how I feel. starts with words, I have trouble just not complaining for a day. my morning starts off with my screaming help like over fifty percent of the week. Im not even awake yet and im having anxiety or some type of panic attack. Its embarrassing (I slept at my boyfriends parents house a few weeks ago and I fell asleep in the living room on the couch and apparently woke up shrieking for help..) awk.. any way, tonight I had to go to the hospital because I was using this little breathing thing from CVS made by Vicks vapor rub company so I guess by vic's or maybe its Vick's idk.. ANYWAY (add af) it basically generates steam by boiling water in the bottom of it and then you cover it with the top part and there is a mask looking thing that adjusts to fit over your nose/mouth so basically you just breath in warm steam similar to putting on a hot shower and sitting down and inhaling the air.. point is, I accidentally left it on for two hours.. and when I went to pick it up not realizing it was still on, a little water dripped out onto my left hand and it hurt SO BAD so I out of shock dropped the entire thing, boiling water spilled down the left side of my body. talk about a below average day right? then I immediately knew to take off any clothes near a burn so I went for my leggings ripped them down (not ripped but like as fast as I could yanked them off of me). and my SKIN .. THE SKIN ON MY ENTIRE LEFT THIGH THE FRONT OF MY LEFT THIGH AND THE SIDES, came off with it. sorry for doing caps but im falling asleep (I was told to avoid caps on here so I apologize my bad seriously I should just backspace but I also have OCD and don't feel like challenging their belief systems right now so im going to leave it be) okay I sound cray but its all good. kinda, anyway so my skin peeled off with the leggings, had to go to the ER and I was in excruciating pain.. and the entire time I was thinking how comfortable I will feel when I get to the ER because if something terrible happens to me ill be in the right place.. and I also was like okay I know this hurts but I feel something and its not panic so I am okay with this.. thats where I am at and am somehow still convincing myself we are all going to be okay. I got you girl. off to sleep for me. day by day. wooo sah

xoxo

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Great advice!!

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Yep, me too, but there were external circumstances involved today which really set me back a few months. I should not let it get to me, there is a lot of truth in what was said, and it was said in a loving way. It is something that I am blatantly aware of and at this moment when my meds have not fully stated to do their job, things are really rough right now. I totally wanted to just give up today..."Thanks for reminding me of the giant log hanging out or my eye", I know it's there and its damn painful right now, so thanks for pointing out the obvious.

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Honestly, I've yet to find a real solution to blanket hopelessness like that, but I can promise you that you're not at all alone in that feeling. ^-^ Just please please remember that even if it feels like everything is stagnant right now, things will change. They always do.

As far as practical solutions go, I agree with Purple_54 -- volunteering, learning a new skill, or doing something that gives you a bit of satisfaction is one of the best ways to help. I really hope that job works out for you! In the meantime, if you want something you can do right now, consider looking through posts on here and replying to people. Of course, don't if it's triggering for you or makes you feel more hopeless. But it can be kind of fulfilling. Anyway, I'm trying it. ^-^

Best wishes and I promise it gets better!

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I have been really bad for more than a month and i don't see anything better. Last night i was crying a lot just remembering everything i had and everything i have lost

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Can you volunteer for instance and connect with some people? What was your college major? Mine was comm dis.

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It's so easy to get stuck in that cycle of missingness and hopelessness. Frankly, it's complete bogus to say "oh, just think about happy things and you'll feel better!", but there are some self-care actions you can take that can help heal your mental state.

One really important thing is your environment -- not just your physical surroundings, but the people you interact with regularly too. Please do look into volunteering like gogogirl mentioned, but if that's a trigger for you, try reaching out indirectly, maybe by making and sharing a creation like art or poetry. Even if the other things don't pan out, maybe consider a counsellor or therapist, who should be happy to find new things that fit you best.

All this to say, please remember that however much you've lost, you can still make new wonderful things. Maybe they won't replace the old ones, but they can be just as lovely.

Stay strong, friend!

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I am feeling sad and alone and afraid.. Sometimes my mind gets out of control with thoughts of suicide. I am on my meds for 15 yrs now, some days I cope well, other days like today I want to give up. Only my grand children keep me going. I put my life in Jesus's hands, but still have bad days. I see a doctor at a gov clinic. Today I am short of breath, shaking, pain in my arm, nausea and my mind is working overtime. I cant wait for evenings so I can just go to sleep and not feel it all. Don't give up people say, not so easy. Do try every day and talk about it

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And the hardest is trying and trying again and keep feeling miserable. I feel like that. I am not enjoying my life

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Look..Im the same..but I have surrendered to God .. I have no one else, I've tried everything, Im tired of all this..so i talk to God ..Im not religious..What ever your religion or whatever you believe as a higher force, talk to it..Its there for you,..that five cents i give towards God has made a difference... this works for me so I advise others...please try..talk to God and tell everything, get everything out..ask for things..Just say all that's in your heart, your pain, what's bothering you, ask anything and everything, and show gratitude at the end..and never lose hope..

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God is good!

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You are not alone, I know how you feel

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Do not apologize for feeling what we as humans will naturally feel, indeed every day I feel hopeless about my situation but I think hmm what about those good days/experiences i've had before? Sometimes life is like a roller coaster, you go up & then you have to come down, right now your going down but don't worry you will come up perhaps even sooner than you expect! So keep faith in yourself miss & keep your head up high! Have a wonderful day & or night miss! :)

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