I don't like crowds, drinking, talking loud because i don't react well. People only pay attention to my attitude and NOT that i have a broken brain that doesn't process things well. I ruminate about Christmas past. Thinking i should have been better with my finances and i would have been a better mom. Thinking that if i hadn't had a breakdown maybe i would have been a better mom. Looking at presents give to each other while i get very little. Suddenly I'm that kid again being around a materialistic insensitive family that i hate being around. The only difference is that I'm now a recovering addict with 27 years and i use to drink to stuff my feelings. At the end of the season most of my relatives aren't speaking to me. But now I live with my cousin. My maternal cousin. My mom's side of the family will hold grudges til Armageddon no matter how long its been. They hurl mistakes that i made from childhood and I'm 64 years old. My mother was my abuser so this is her side of the family. I knew i should have NEVER moved in with my cousin. It has exacerbated my depression. I've had two back to back emotional breakdowns. I feel like the psychotic villian and i don't have psychosis. I feel trapped. She doesn't want me to speak to her. I've taken responsibility for what I've done but in true form that is my maternal family, they don't take ANY responsibility for what they've done. So i go thru this "please forgive me" cycle while they ignore me because i deserve to be punished. They go on with their lives while my anxiety and depression is at an all time low and it's difficult getting thru each day because I'm obsessed with their forgiveness and approval. A cycle that I've gone thru all my life. I need to distance myself from family but each time I've tried my youngest daughter puts this guilt trip on me that my cousin needs help. So do I. I didn't have one visitor while i was in a psych ward twice for almost a month. My cousin just brought me some clothes and that was it. Otherwise she was too busy " entertaining". She couldn't take me to the hospital because she was " entertaining". I caught bronchial pneumonia a year a go and couldn't get one member of my maternal family to take me to the emergency room becauae they were either too busy or " entertaining". I was sick 3 weeks. Nobody checked on me. I'm a very caring person. I can get along with a stop sign. But my maternal family i have to admit bring out the worst in me. I see it they don't. So why do i still hanf around them? My therapist and i are working on that question right now.
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Holidays bring out the worst in me and i wonder why
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I was married to a sociopath for 24 years and had 6 kids with him. After 8 years of marraige, I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder. For the remainder of my marraige, I suffered mostly with depression and severe anxiety on a daily basis. My husband finally abandoned me while I was in a hospital. I then went to live with my sister who is a caring person. I have not had one day of anxiety while living with her like I experienced for so many years with my ex. My point? Your family is intensifying your condition more than you know. You will not even realize how much until you distance yourself completely from them. You have to let go, completely. You are sick and they are sucking what little life energy you have left right out of you. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but my belief in Him is what got me through. If you believe in Him and ask for help, He will guide you toward the help you need. Make a plan, as soon as possible, to move in with a friend or even rent a room in a house with strangers who may become your friends. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by making the leap. You are a sweet, kind, loving person and your family doesn't deserve to use you as a punching bag anymore. You can do it!!!
Hi I am sorry to hear this. You aren't going to get blood out of a stone and nor are you going to get any favourable reactions from these relations,
It's way past time you stopped trying! Look to get acceptance and approval from your friends instead and get these toxic people out of your life.
You need to get away from the cousin too and get your own place if you can. x