Does the it get any better?

[Sharonby5]

I'm 55 and for the last nine years I have been just existing. My boyfriend died of an aneurysm in front of me. It has changed me so much that sometimes I can not function. After many years of trying to deal with this alone, I finally went on medication. It doesn't work

[Agora1]

Hi Sharonby5 I am terribly sorry for the loss of your boyfriend. When a tragic event happens, especially in front of our eyes, it leaves a memory that can keep replaying in our minds. Also know as PTSD,. It was a loss as well as a shock causing you to not be able to move forward in life and so you meet each new day in just existing.

Any tragedy in our lives needs to be addressed, talked out. We can't try dealing with it alone, we can't hide it. Seeing a professional therapist while starting on your medication goes hand in hand. The med may not be the right one for you or the right dosage. But know that no matter what med you are put on, you really need the therapy to go along with it for a while. Once you address what you experienced that day as well as the loss you feel, you will be able to proceed forward in life instead of being stuck and just existing.

I wish you well. The forum can be a stepping stone in moving forward by sharing your life's journey with others who have or are experiencing the same issue. xx

[blackcat64013]

Hi Sharonby5,

Thank you for sharing your story in your forum.

In summary,IT, however you define this thing, does get better

Agora1 has nailed the advice about seeking some professional mental health treatment.

A good therapist can help you cope with feelings and symptoms, and change patterns that may contribute to your illness and general decline in wellbeing.

Going to therapy, assuming it's successful, can help your issues fade away. In my humble opinion, the earlier you go to therapy and engage in with a therapist, the better off you are in the long run.

Three big things I have learned about therapy:-

* Therapy is all about the relationships.

* It doesn't matter what techniques the therapist is trained in as long as they are qualified and licensed

* A talking therapy works because you feel heard, supported and connected to your therapist. If you do not feel these things, it is wise to find a different therapist to work with you. The first one doesn't always work out.

In between sessions, the folks in the forum are here to support you.

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Hi Sharonby5,

I know you are going thru a difficult time and have been for a really long time. I am new to this site as well and I can only offer this for help or advise. Please know that there are caring people on this site that are here for you, as they have been for me. Thank you for taking the first step and reaching out for help and advise. You are important to more people than you know.