Update: Fiance broke up a month before wedding. Hope this helps someone going through a breakup right now

Hi, I wanted to share an update (two month update) related to my first post here. I joined this group about the week after the breakup in desperate search for someone who understands... someone who will give me hope. All of you have done that. So thank you

I hope this will help someone who is dealing with a breakup and feeling like their world is falling apart.

After the breakup I was extremely suicidal. I am no longer suicidal. I can drive without worrying about the desire to crash into the side of the road. I can go to the ocean without the desire to jump in.

I couldn't sleep. Now I can sleep through the night. No more nightmares!

I used to cry for hours a day, until my eyes were so sore I couldn't see. I still cry every couple of days but I can control myself. I am able to find a distraction and deal with it much better.

I went for therapy and couldn't go through with it without feeling dizzy. My therapist gave me a break last week because she thought I was doing well :).

I stopped my working out. I joined yoga again and going to the gym

I would compulsively go through our texts and pictures - yesterday I managed to look at our pictures without feeling sad!

I completely neglected my work when I was in the relationship. Now I have managed to catch up and keep up. I am back to my passionate professional self.

I neglected my friends - I am building those friendships again. I am also meeting new people!

I used to get extremely angry - I still do but only once a fortnight or so. I am able to regulate my anger better

I went on a date - it did not go well. But I did it. and I am looking forward to meeting new people. No longer fear that I am going to be alone forever

I dreaded spending Christmas without him - but yesterday I managed to buy new decorations and now I am actually excited about the holidays

Those are some of the many things. I remember when I thought nothing would get better. I felt like a tornado dumped me in the middle of nowhere, but now I am finding my way to a better self. If I can do it, so can you!

[Doug1847]

Good for you! Hang in there, it will get better. My high school sweetheart and I had been together for 9 years when she called off our wedding 3 months before the big day.

The next year was a living hell. The 6 months after that I went through a bunch of short relationships with girls that deep down I knew I had no interest in. Then we hired a new girl where I worked. We ended up working the closing shift a lot together. We really liked spending time together and she made he laugh again and look forward to getting up in the morning and seeing her.

Needless to say, we've been happily married for 12 years now and she had been the best thing to ever happen to me.

[Hidden in reply to Doug1847]

Your story gives me hope that one day I will find love too

[Windy101]

Oh, hurray! You are so strong! I've been there and know that road. You are on your way and getting yourself and your life back! One day you won't care about him anymore and will look back and realize that this breakup took you down a path of adventures and fabulous people that you wouldn't trade for anything. This year, make your holiday special and different - about you and your new life. Make it about your strength. You keep right on going. The future is bright, I promise.

[pinkmermaid13]

I love this! I love how you are able to see the good in all the little things. Happiness is a lot of little things added up, not just one big thing. Your post reminded me to put my emotions in check and to remember the little things that make you happy. (I'm having issues with my current bf and feel hopeless and confused.) I feel like your post showed me how my life can become after a break up.

[Hidden in reply to pinkmermaid13]

Hi Thank you. Yeah I know the feeling, When he broke up and broke off the wedding without second thought I felt like I was going to die (I am not exaggerating btw), But two months in, my life is so much better than it was when I was with him. I plan to keep posting updates every month or so. (PS: I wish I had someone give me this hope by sharing lived experiences when I was going through the breakup.That is why I thought of posting these)

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

You are a survivor Purple_54. We are all stronger than we think we are until a hard life's lesson shows us. Your strength in going forward will help others going through the same thing. Keep posting and continue staying strong. xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for the words of encouragement

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

I never had a doubt Purple_54 that you can and would make it through this. I'm sure Fate has another plan for your life that will meet more than your expectations. xx