I've been married to an abusive husband for 8 years and left over a year ago. The anxiety I suffer from is mainly related to the treatment I received by my husband over that period of time. Now I am alone but continue to struggle because I am 54 years old and feel as if I can't have a successful life because of loss of income due to going on disability. I fear not being able to make it on my own and have a comfortable retirement

I am a nurse and an esthetician. I really want to get into the esthetics side but feel my age, (loss of my looks) won't allow me to succeed as well as the time it will take to get a client base built up to a financially profitable level.

I suffer from difficulty concentrating and memory problems as well as low self esteem.

I would love feedback from anyone who might offer encouragement in my circumstances.

Thank you

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  • It is tough getting over a failed marriage. I still have trouble with dealing with the final few months of my marriage. I know what it is like to be worried about money as well.

    You are not too old and you can still have a successful life. If you have a dream I say go for it. You will never know if it would have worked or not if you don't look into it. Problem was your memory shouldn't cause too much of a problem if you work out a system of how to remind you of up and coming events. Why not see if you can work with someone else, is possible?

    Take it day to day, work out your goals for the next few years and work towards them.

    Take care.

  • Thanks for your encouragement. I am actually looking into renting a treatment room inside an existing spa. I made a couple of phone calls today.

    Right now I am struggling with brain fog and tiredness and so the battle begins. Do I go lay down or just push through my symptoms? Most the time, laying down wins out but I think I'll push through today and your note actually helped me with that decision!

  • The brain fog and tiredness are horrible. If you are not sleeping at night try setting up a sleep routine , where you set up a routine of when you stop eating and drinking coffee every day. What you do to relax before going to sleep and also what time you go to bed and how much sleep you get.

    It should include plans for what you do if you wake in the middle of the night.

    It takes time, but well worth setting up. :-D

    I wish you luck with your plans. You can also see if there is someone that can help you with setting up a business.

    Take care.

  • Thank you for the tips. I will give it a shot.

  • I am so sorry that this happened to you, but I am so glad you got out of it! Don't ever think that you can't do something because of your age. You can do anything you set your mind to, so go on and get into esthetics, girl! ❤️

  • Thanks Mary!

  • I agree. Nice to see you here as well OP

  • Age is not real, it's an illusion. What you think and feel, the body follows. You're still young, as you've only been around the sun 54 times. It's time for you to have some fun chasing your dreams!! Without anything stopping you or holding you back. New beginning!!! And yes new beginnings can at times feel extremely scary, but when they do, they're usually the beginning of something beautiful! And you're gorgeous btw, dating is NOT out of the picture either 🙊You have so much to look forward too I don't even think you realize it hunni 🌸Remember, life begins on the other side of our comfort zones 💕Go create the life you want! YOU are the Captain of your ship babygirl!!! ❤️ Peace and Love

  • Thank you for the sweet encouragement. You lifted my spirits!

  • Good luck -- you can do it! You look fabulous

  • Thank you so much for the encouragement!!!

  • I agree with the others - you are gorgeous! Go after your dreams and don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do it. You deserve a big medal for leaving a bad marriage and starting out on your own. If you can survive that and get out of it, you can do anything. Go, girl, go!

  • Awesome words! Thank you so much for the encouragement my friend!

  • I'm so sorry about the abusive relationship you had to endure. Thank goodness you were able to get out.

    I am feeling a lot like you about my age, and my looks etc. I would really like to start a new career, but I feel I'm too old. I am 53.

    I just started suffering from panic and anxiety this last year to where I feel trapped.

    It sounds like you have things lined up as to what you want to do. And I agree with the other posts, you are very Pretty. I'm sure you will be able to accomplish anything you set your mind to. Best Wishes!!

  • Thank you so much for the compliment. I was thinking the other day that I see attractive older women and I think they look great. Their confidence is attractive as well and I know older women who work in the same industry as me and they are happy and successful. We are not in competition with our younger counter parts. With age comes wisdom and understanding. I want to be able to be an inspiration to younger women that older doesn't mean bad. Lets do it my friend and see ourselves out our age as beautiful and well seasoned!

    I hope you choose to take the leap and do your career transition. I went back to school at 51 and thoroughly enjoyed it. Good luck to you!

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