The support i need

[Sphe]

How do i tell my family and friends that i have a problem without them judging me ,thinking am looking for attention

[Depressed1996]

It's a difficult subject to talk about but it's something that needs to be done. I told my family when it first started happening. I had no way of getting help without them. It was my only choice and I'm glad I did it so early on in my depression.

As for friends I have been bad about this. I just started telling my small amount of close friends what's been going on. None of them even knew, I was so suprised they couldn't tell. I think that social media for me was an easy way to hide my depression from others.

Let them know it is a legitimate problem for you and tell them how much pain it causes you.

[Tillyray]

Hi Sphe. Talking about our feelings is never easy, and if it isn't something you are naturally uncomfortable with you may find 'opening up' even more difficult. One of the best kinds of therapy available to us is to talk. Talking about what we are experiencing and feeling really helps...

When you tell your family and friends,just be open and honest. Those closest to you who love and care for you will not judge you. This information will then allow your family and close friends to realise what you are going through and then be able to support you. Not everyone will be able to relate to what you are experiencing or understand it, but they will want to help you...Remember there is a lot of support on here, from charity websites and local organisations. Very best wishes xx

[Sphe]

I told my family abt my condition no one answered me i called them thy re unavailable jst bcs i told thm tht am depressed .No one takes me serious thts why i always feel alone

[Tillyray in reply to Sphe]

Dear Sphe. We understand what it can feel like to be down, anxious, depressed and to feel as if there is no one to talk to. you're definitely not alone..

I am sorry that you did not get the reaction you wanted after telling your family. Sometimes it is very hard for others to understand, and because they are not going through it themselves they may find it difficult to relate to those feelings. Someone's lack of response when told their loved one is suffering with depression, can also be because they themselves are hoping it isn't true and they try to deny it.. Whatever the reason, you did the right thing by telling them. Maybe you could try talking again to the one person you are closest to, perhaps ask to meet with them on their own and say to them that you are really just hoping that they will support you by being there for you to talk to.. You should also now begin to reach out to others for support, so See your Doctor or find a support group where you can connect with others. Look at charity websites for support and stay connected on forums..Best wishes xx