Lonely

[blOndie08]

Anyone here like your solitude but get lonely?

[Hidden]

Yes, at times. Find I need to keep busy from 9 a.m. until about 3 p.m. Then the rest of the day and evening is ok.

Been a bit worse since the recent death of my service dog, as we would walk in the mornings to local stores, library, etc. Guess I was his "wing man". Don't want to walk without him...just isn't the same and I need to find a motivation to get out and walk to these places by myself....I am walking much better now than I was when he and I were matched 12 years ago, so maybe I can do this without falling.

[blOndie08 in reply to Hidden]

I'm usually not this bad; just hits me occasionally.

I wish you all the best in walking; I'm living in city since January after 12 years rural. I'm supposed to be walking also but I always feel like I'm being watched and judged.

[Hidden in reply to blOndie08]

Well then wear something outrageous and have fun. Most likely no one will bother to notice, much less judge you and it's your own inside joke. Wear a funky hat with huge sun glasses, and beat up sneakers. You won't be recognized.

For years my 14 lb service dog walked into all kinds of stores, and as he was quiet and followed his training to stay close to me, people often didn't think any thing about a dog shopping for groceries. Didn't matter if I had make up on or not, wore over size sun glasses (live in Florida) and shorts or a dress. But always sneakers due to comfort in walking...the sneakers were on me, not the dog.

[Hidden in reply to blOndie08]

Hi blOndie ask yourself why you are so important that others watch and judge you? And if anyone is doing that it is their problem not yours! Most people in my experience are too busy worrying about themselves to take much notice of other people.

It's only if you are acting in a socially unacceptable manner that others will take notice of you, such as muttering to yourself, wearing unsuitable clothes etc. Do you do any of that? Hold your head up and be proud of how nice you look instead and maybe others are looking at you with envy?

Keep telling yourself all this while you are out and about and it will help. (But don't mutter )

I think CBT could help you. Are you having any?

[blOndie08 in reply to Hidden]

What is CBT?

[graciouslytaken in reply to blOndie08]

Cognitive behavioral therapy

[blOndie08 in reply to Hidden]

And I don't think I'm important at all! I think they make fun of me as how it's been my life. That comment hurts

[gogogirl]

Yes, even different when one gets older!

[7304AmM]

Hi, it's my first time replying to someone, maybe I can talk and be here all the time you need

[blOndie08 in reply to 7304AmM]

This is so kind of you. I'm not a good friend right now. I have ups and downs right now I'm wayyyy down. I will chat with you if you like. I seem to take care of others than myself

[7304AmM in reply to blOndie08]

Focus on yourself, try to stay concentrated in going on, I know it's hard but you're going to pass trough this

[graciouslytaken]

Feeling lonely is ok sometimes and I think healthy. Looking for support in this community I think is a great step.

[Hollick]

Yes, it's quite the paradox. Like you said, enjoying solitude, but then crushing loneliness sets in...need to figure this out, is there a 'happy medium', as we use to say...