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[shyguymich123]

I am a hoarder. Anyone else have that problem? Are you afraid to let people see your house?

[BonnieSue]

Well, I got over that because I had to. My husband was a bit of a pack rat. I'm slowly working my way through his messes. I'm down to one big room. And much of that is my mess. I have a ton of books, many to sell, and I have to find the best way to sell them that isn't 1 by 1. Then I have art supplies that take up a lot of space. I can't do a whole lot about that except to try to display them in an appealing, attractive way. I'm storing clothing and Legos, both of which are for resale when the time is right, and so forth. It's up to me to get through the stuff because he's gone and no one else is going to clean up the room and free up the pool table that's underneath everything.

[mysmugcat]

Yes and no. I'm messy and have too many clothes. Trying to cull some clothes

[BonnieSue in reply to mysmugcat]

Aren't we all?

[Hidden]

I am a would be hoarder and if I had more space I would collect more. Being in a small flat I am forced to restrict hat I have.

My problem is that I never clear anything out and I rarely do any housework. I only do it when I can't walk on the floor for crockery, newspapers, books and other things. I feel too embarrassed to invite anyone round. I need to get my boiler and toilet seen to but have put it off for months so I have no hot water, and have to only turn the water on once a day because of leaks from my toilet.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Sounds quite urgent that you get these repairs done, think about how much easier life will be once your boiler and toilet are fixed, could you just try and clear the areas that the repair people will see? toilet and wherever your boiler is? is there anyone you trust enough to ask for help to clear these areas with you? Xxx

[BonnieSue in reply to Hidden]

I like that suggestion about trusting someone to ask them for help to clear an area and get someone in to do the needed repairs. I recently did that with cleaning up the last room that I mentioned I have to do. I paid someone who helped me begin to go through the room I need to get rid of anything I can get rid of. It went great, but she hasn't been well since then and progress has stopped. I need her brain with mine to help make decisions and she's creative with displaying my art supplies so nicely. It's just so hard for me to get to this stuff, but after we worked, I put in many hours getting rid of everything that I decided to get out of the house. And she needed the money, so that was good.

[Hidden in reply to BonnieSue]

Great idea, you both benefit and the job gets done win win situation Bonniesue xxx

[Hidden in reply to BonnieSue]

Thanks for your reply BonnieSue. It's the moral support I need as much as anything. I can afford the repairs but not really to pay someone to help me. Also it's reached such a state that I would be embarrassed to get anyone in.

I know I have to do something so many thanks for your suggestions.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It is past urgent now. I live in a small 1 bedroom flat so the only area they won't see is the bedroom.

I know I have to do it and yes a friend did give me a hand but I just let it slide again. Part of me is desperate to get it done, but the other part thinks I am not worth it and I deserve to live the way I do. It's my form of self harm I guess.

Added to that is apart from depression I also suffer from mild lung problems and chronic back pain so physically it is difficult, doable but difficult.

Thank you for caring.

[BonnieSue in reply to Hidden]

Omigosh, lilaclil, you need to take care of yourself right away! Please tell me you'll get someone in to repair your boiler and toilet!! You needed hot water all through the cold weather! And even now you should have it! And the toilet needs to be working, girl! You do NOT deserve these things to be broken down as long as you can afford the repairs. NO way!! Uh-uh!! Get that thinking out of your head!

There is nothing you can tell me that makes it okay for you to deserve these things to not be working. Please call someone to have them fixed and then pm me and let me know when they are fixed. I really want to hear from you.

And you need to address this depression that seems to be a big cloud over your head these days. What can you do about that? Are you under a doctor's care or do you need to find one? I'm going to pm you about this, okay? We've got to take care of you, lilaclil!

[Hidden in reply to BonnieSue]

Bless you my friend. I have replied to your pm. Thanks. xxx

[joyann1]

Yes 😔