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Understanding and getting help with my. Anxiety and depresssion

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My name is Nicole I am finally trying to get help with an issuse I have. I have anxiety and depression I don't quite understand it know how to control it. It kind of runs my life,my cousin told me about support groups. I'm not sure how this works so I guess this is me reaching out to others so I can get help and get better.

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Nicole, your not alone! Support groups, therapists & psychologists are all good answers. You've made the first step by asking for help. I've suffered for 30 yrs with depression/anxiety, it took me the longest time to admit I needed help and couldn't handle it on my own. I'm a strong person so it was very hard to admit. Medicine was my only option but may not be for you. I had a wonderful life, great husband and kids but still something was wrong with me. Depression & anxiety are tricky little devils 👿 Even with medicine, counseling after all these years they both still rear their ugly heads at times but I have a great therapists to talk to. I still have good and bad days but since my diagnosis years ago seems like more good ones. Keep the faith, find a good therapist you like and feel comfortable with (I've gone thru many) try to start there. Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.

Robin

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Hi Nicole!

I've had anxiety and depression for 29 years. I've had it treated and have gone to counseling for that length of time which means I've had a fantastic healthy and well-adjusted bunch of years to work, grow and raise my kids. I had to be a supermom because my kids turned out to be super-active! I have had 3 sons with ADHD and LD (learning disabilities). What a regular kid does in a day my kids did in 2 hours. I cared for a sick neighbor and then a sick husband until their respective deaths. One son is still my dependent.

I attribute my high functioning to good doctors and good counseling along with my own good self-monitoring and compliance with my treatment plans of my doctors and counselors. I also credit my spiritual growth as a significant source of strength and my God as a source of great blessing. I control my illness, it doesn't control me!

hey Nicole

First don't feel bad (as much as possible) about it running your life. Anxiety is literally your body working against you in order to protect you. When I was first learning about what these feelings I have had my whole life were I thought I was going crazy. So first know it's totally normal to feel like it's running your life. I read up on anxiety and depression and learned what I could as my starting point. Especially with anxiety it's important to know what type (yep there are multiple types) you have because then you can understand your triggers. Me personally I have GAD(generalized anxiety disorder) as well as social phobia which can devolve to agoraphobia if I stay home too much and panic disorder. Once you understand your triggers you can begin dealing with them. I would seek out a therapist or psychologist to diagnosis you officially however reading up on it can give you a starting point. Many articles list symptoms that might sound familiar to you. Therapist would be next stop because they can provide structure help and if medication is needed that too. I was against meds but it became necessary because of panic attacks. Depression also has triggers in a different manner. I find with Depression a routine helps. The routine doesn't allow negative thought build up. Making a calm safe place at home has helped me as well.

I hope that you continue to research and ask for help because it's out there and remember you aren't alone. Good Luck :)

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