Lack of Understanding from Others

[Draganies]

My sister ties with my husband for most important person in my life (which is good since I currently live with her) and most of the time she is amazing and supportive and awesome but sometimes, with certain things, she is just the most frustrating and insensitive person ever!

My anxiety has been getting in the way of me getting a job for over a year now (to be a little fair, for the first 6 months I was constantly at doctors appointments and such for recovery from a car accident). Once I have a job, I am fine. Mostly. (That is, I can manage things when they go sideways) But the process of applying for jobs is damn near impossible for me. Since my sister is currently supporting me, you can imagine that topic comes up somewhat regularly. But when I ask for help on job applications (or even just express a need for help) she gets frustrated and rants about how if I need help just to apply for a job, then I would be 100% disabled and should be living on disability and I'm not therefore I don't need the help I think I do, I just need to get a job and everything will get better... and the message behind her rant is: suck it up, get over it, my reasons for not having a job are invalid. ... Also, confusingly, is the circular logic of "you just need a job to feel better and then you wouldn't be having so much trouble.... getting a job"... Not helpful!

It's true I do better when I have a job because it supplies routine and forces me out of the house on a regular basis but that's not helping me right now since I don't have a job.

I just don't know what to do about this problem I have with job applications. And I don't know what to say to my sister when she's being like that. And it's that second part that bothers me the most at the moment.

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just ranting.

Thanks for listening though.

[BonnieSue]

Hi and welcome! I'm sorry to hear that your sister doesn't seem to understand your anxiety and how it affects your job hunting. I don't think anyone truly understands us if they haven't personally experienced our problems. You can come here to find people who do understand you and I hope it felt satisfying to "rant" here! ;o)

You appear to be too anxious to fill out the job application forms on your own. Are you sure you want to live with this level of anxiety without treatment? Starting a new job can be every bit as challenging as filling out the application. And anxiety can rear it's ugly head once you are working. May I suggest that you might want to get your anxiety down to more manageable levels prior to taking a job so it doesn't affect your job performance?

Can you find someone else besides your sister to help with the applications? I think most libraries have such help or can tell you where to find it. I wish you great luck in your job search and success at your new job.