Alone for xmas

I hope everyone is having a great Christmas with family and loved ones.

For those that are alone its a very different n difficult time. I myself, am struggling n just waiting for the day to be over!

[RyRywifey Ambassador]

I'm sorry you were alone for zmas, my mom was too, she lives In Ohio and I live across the globe in Cali. But we talked on the phone majority of the day. I hope you found a way to distract yourself and find something to be thankful for in the day anyway, and watched a funny movie and had a good evening afterall. Sending hugs and love from me to you 😘💖

[Hidden in reply to RyRywifey]

Hi RyRywifey,

Thank u for ur reply.

It was a very difficult day for me n im just grateful its over now!

I spent the whole day crying alone in my bed untill I fell asleep.

[kinikia95 ADAA Volunteer in reply to Hidden]

I'm sorry I meant to be on here for Christmas and to help anyone who was having issues but to be honest I thought I would be up but I was so down I didn't even want to infect anyone with my negativity. I was basically in the same situation that you were and I wish I would have come on here.

[mjlitl13]

I was pretty much alone for Christmas too.My boyfriend, who lives with me was here but he and I both suffer from depression.

We are both retired and have been together for a very long time.

I think this Christmas was my worst one yet.

So, I understand how you must be feeling.

I need to get out and somehow meet with people. At least, my social anxiety is a lot better.

What helped me with that was attending AL-ANON ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS meetings quite a few years ago. Btw, you don't have to have alcoholics in your life to attend. I asked that at my first meeting. Since you don't ever have to share and people respect you just the way you are, It helped me come out of my shell!

The only reason I no longer go is because the meetings closest to mean closed down.

I am in the process of joining a similar type of meeting that I found on meetup.com, and it is very close to me!

I will be going to my first meeting in the New Year!

I hope what I have shared helps a bit. You are NOT alone regarding the holidays.

Also, I plan to finally go back to volunteering at the library. I have been away for over a year now due to various physical illnesses.

Take Care and hope to hear from you again soon.

MJ

[Ddorne]

I am so sorry. My old therapist said "Holidays are depressing." And its true. Being with people helps a lot but they are still hard. After they are over I feel a sense of freedom. I believe in God and I try and follow the religious meaning of them. That gets me through .

[pattimelt]

To anyone that is struggling.....I have suffered with major depression for almost 30 years now. Last Christmas was by far the worst of my life. Isolation was my only friend because my personal misery was too painful to share with anyone. Finally after suffering alone for months, I reached out to an old friend that I had not spoken to in almost 20 years. She took the time to remind me of the person that I used to be and really listened to my painful story. After a few months of contact I flew out of state to visit her and her family. It was just the change that I needed. Slowly I have taken steps to try different things and have had the best few months of my entire life. A year ago I was praying for God to just end my life....and now I am so grateful to God for all of the wonderful blessings in my life. My message to you is this, "don't give up". It can get better. Reach out to someone if you are alone. It can make things better than trying to do it all alone. The pain we suffer by isolating ourselves is paralyzing, I know, but there are people that can help us if we just ask. I just wanted to let anyone that is struggling through the holidays know that you can make it through. Just take one day at a time. Blessings to you...Pattimelt

[Hidden]

I also felt the same. Hewwww it's over till next year! My idea is I will plan an outing such as the beach. Hope weather is good. Maybe volunteer at shelter. May help me with all the sorrow and crying

[Ewein12]

I know exactly how you feel; birthdays alone, holidays alone and the beat goes on. I thought of serving at a soup kitchen but didn't follow thru. We don't get out enough to meet new people; join clubs etc. I really blame myself. Find a hobby u like and do it if you are home like painting or coloring books or writing, orange crush,