My story so far.....Steely_Dan - Advanced Prostate...

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My story so far.....Steely_Dan

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Born in central Harlem, 1950. Spent the first 17 years of my life in foster homes . At age 17 a judge granted my request to join the U.S. Army. Fast forward 4 years. With discharge papers and a GED in hand, I managed to find a basement flat in my old neighborhood. An older fellow in the building told me that the The New York City public school system was hiring custodians. So, for the next 41 years I cleaned schools and learned to speak Spanish.

3 years into retirement I went to my annual checkup at the Brooklyn Veterans Hospital and well for the next couple of days all hell broke loose. At age 64 I was told to get things in order and keep my family close. What family? I have never been married.

PSA 1150, multiple mets, lymph nodes trashed, on and on.

Treatment Was Casodex, Lupron and several months later chemo. That got me through nearly 4 years. Provenge thrown in for good measure. Currently on Zytiga ( 3.5 years.) PSA last month stood at 0.008. 8.5 years and counting, guess I'm lucky.

Approximately one year after DX I decided I needed something to keep me going so after much nudging the Manhattan Community College accepted me. Well I managed to get through the core classes, snatch an associates degree and landed at New York University. Forward to present, I'm the proud owner of a BA in social and cultural analysis. Not bad for an orphaned black kid from Harlem. I'm hoping to volunteer my newfound knowledge to nonprofits that serve my community.

I have never driven a car, have no need living in NYC.

When I was DX I was told I had maybe 2 years. 8.5 years later I'm doing well, looking forward to at least another 8.5 years.

I'm currently exploring a masters as an Oncology social worker. Seems fitting.

Never, ever give up. Set goals and realize the dreams that flows through your mind.

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Carlosbach

Amazing story, you are an example to men everywhere!

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Loudlibrarian

l love happy beginnings. May you continue to do well on this journey and find the best place to share your gifts. ❤️

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witantric

Amazing journey indeed! God bless. Invite me to your 100th birthday 🥳

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Lasered

What an amazing inspirational story! Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏻

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Rob1053

love the attitude. Keep up the fight!

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Ollie1948

Great example for everyone. Congratulations.

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dudubaya

Nice to see such positive attitude in the face of adversity, you are an inspiration for many

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Boywonder56

Thats the attitude that helps win the fight......love the name saw em at the whisky in 74......

in reply to Boywonder56

I was lucky enough to see them at a small venue ( Max's Kansas City - NYC ) in 72.

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KocoPr

Thank you for a positive story! You are an amazing human being.

Thank you for serving!!!

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PSAed

Thanks for sharing that inspirational story of a life well lived....and like the ad on TV for batteries...."he's still going" ! Best Wishes

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Carlosbach

You go back, Jack, do it again

in reply to Carlosbach

You tell yourself you're not my kind. But you don't even know your mind.

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Carlosbach in reply to

And you could have a change of heart...

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addicted2cycling in reply to

👍👍

Steely_Dan wrote -- " Born in central Harlem, 1950 ... "

A little FYI -- your birthday this year is on the same day you were born on, so HAPPY 73 and many more to come.

in reply to addicted2cycling

Truth be told they estimated my date of birth.

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Muffin2019

Congrats on success with treatments, what a good story.

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runtrails

Laying on my bed with Creedence Clearwater cranked up in my earbuds and reading your post. And some water leaking from my eyes. Damn Lupron side effects I suppose. Thanks for sharing your remarkable jouney!

in reply to runtrails

If you visit NYC let me know, we take take a run around Central Park.

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Realistic

Wonderful post, hope your very proud of yourself. Keep doing what your doing we all have a story to tell. God bless & keep fighting the battle we can do this. SheilaFxxx

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Rogersw

well done buddy

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Formosan

I am impressed by your story. You teach me to hold up my head and never give up. I was diagnosed as a prostate cancer patient and had gone through RP. My psa however remained around 9 six weeks later. I suffer from very bad leakage and am on ADT. I feel bad about myself. I am alone too though was married before. I turned 80 after my surgery. May God give me the same optimistism as you have.

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KingNeptune

You Sir, are the definition of inspiration. Godspeed 🙏

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maley2711

What tough adversity you have overcome.....amazing !!!!!

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HikerWife

I love this, thanks for sharing.

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Peealot

What an uplifting post and story. You have earned every inch of the pride you share in your story. I know this post will give hope to many readers of this blog. Go get ‘em in your next conquest.

Thank you.

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LongevityAT

I talk a lot about mindset, particularly a growth mindset and Steely_Dan, you are an incredible example of the power of a growth mindset. Keep telling your story and inspire others to learn from you!

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hopeful1956

What a remarkable person you are. Congratulations on your accomplishments.

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Spyder54

Inspiring ! Thank you Steely Dan. Mike

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Shamrock46

You deserve to be very proud of yourself and your accomplishments! Sometimes adversity can be inspiring and lead to hope instead of despair or bitterness. The fact that you want to use your talents to now help others says a lot about you and the road you've traveled. My dad used to tell us that education is something no one can ever take away from you and it appears you believe in that too. God bless you while you continue on your journey!

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nextphase

Great story an inspiration for all.

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Runner4000

Thanks very much for sharing. So many negative stories these days. Wonderful to hear your positive, refreshing and inspirational one. Muchas Gracias!!

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pjd55d

From my point of view, you Sir, are LIVING with cancer - something I am trying to do.

Best

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Blue-Mockingbird

¡Bravo, y felicidades!

Te deseo aún mas éxito 🙏🏽

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yardsailor

you go man ,we are all family here brotherDan.... you have made my day thanks

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DesertDaisy

I love your life story.

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carbide

I truly enjoyed your story. Best luck, enjoy.

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gsun

What an accomplishment getting a BA at your age and wanting to go on to an MA. Do you think all those years working at schools inspired you?

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chips1942

Hi Steely, Great to hear your story, we share several elements of our life story. Currently 81 on Docetaxel, 13 years into treatment. Received my MA as MFT at 62. It had some value to open doors, however, I find that volunteering with nonprofits which have positively affected my life to be most rewarding. Men and particularly black men need to hear your beautiful story. Don’t wait to share it. Phil

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treedown

Thank you for sharing. Its an incredible story and one that is full of growth and hope. Your community is lucky to have you.

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bitittle

You’re truly an inspiration. Live long and enjoy every day brother.

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longleaf

wow!

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Rocketman1960

Awesome Dan. Living the reflected life and giving back to others. Awesome!

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dhccpa

Great outcome, Bro! Carry on...

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dmt1121

Your story is an amazing one of overcoming what others might see as insurmountable odds. You really have kept your life going without allowing this disease to take over the years you still have. I grew up in NYC and I miss it.

Getting a degree from NYU is no small thing. Keep it up and continue to inspire us!

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Jeremiad53

Outstanding, you certainly turned your lemons into lemonade. Kudos sir.

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Cancer2x

THAT is how you adapt, improvise, and overcome! Drive on Steely-Dan!!

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dadzone43

You are awesome and your story gave me goosebumps.

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keepinon

WOW! Kudos to you!!

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Juju1979

Thank you for sharing your story. It is inspirational!

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klogardener

What an amazing story. Congratulations on your degree!!!!! And continuing to a Masters degree - how fantastic! I wish you the best on your journey. I imagine that you have touched many lives in ways they do not even comprehend. The world is so fortunate there are people like you.

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binati

An inspiration to never give up hope.

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Grandpa4

Great Job. Very inspirational.

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NickJoy

Wow just wow. You are amazing. Thank you and I wish you the very best in your new career.

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jfoesq

Congratulations! You have done magnificently considering the difficult beginning you had in life. May you continue to fight the good fight for many more years to come.

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Lkolcese

Wow! You made my day.

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PSAed

I've reread all the responses to your post here Steely_Dan, and found no evidence of "hate in this group " as you have proclaimed in the Post Title no less! On the contrary, all the responses here have been praiseworthy and supportive , including my own. By all means leave the site if you wish but not insult everyone as you slam the door on the way out.

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CAMPSOUPS in reply to PSAed

I agree. 74 likes for Steely-Dan's post and all supportive responses. I was glued to and moved by his post.

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treedown in reply to CAMPSOUPS

I was thinking the same thing. With so much love why focus on 1 or 2 a__holes? Oh well I wish him all the best.

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JWPMP

I cant believe you're leaving when 99% is positive and you've inspired numerous members(more than you know, many don't respond but definitely read). What an incredible story. Reconsider please

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