My husband (60) is in the process of being diagnosed. We already know his PSA is 100 and alkaline phosphatase is >800, so we're already pretty sure we're looking at metastatic disease. He is having pain in his ribs and lower back. Additionally, this all began because he had the flu, didn't get better/recurring fever, so the doctor suspected pneumonia. He did indeed have a spot on his lung. She's treating it for now as pneumonia but in light of the other labs, we're now looking at another site of potential metastasis.
He is scheduled for biopsy and CT in 6 days (waiting on rectal culture and antibiotic therapy first).
What should we be asking? How do I get my own terror under control? The more I read, the more I see how bad these labs are and how ominous his constant fever and bone pain is. Can anyone offer hope?