Me and others with adhd.

[Pro-masker]

So...I have the ability to hyperfocus on body language and can feel vibes very strongly...yet I lack in creativity like others...I'm am damn near 110% sure my son AND his girlfriend has ADHD...every single little detail I'm constantly analyzing...I'm going to be truthful...I detest being in the same room when all their traits are exposed...almost like the mask has slipped...I get so wound up...I cant think with all the interruptions.

I'm doing everything I can to stop it triggering...yet I always find myself on my own in my bedroom watching Netflix.

I feel like, when you put 2 ppl with torrets in a room and all of a sudden it a whole strip of fire crackers going off till they just give up... it's really starting to bug me as I don't know to deal with it...I'm still processing what adhd actually is...ive always said to my children, 'let me make the mistakes so you don't have to' but yet I struggle to co-operate in a conversation so my knowledge isn't getting shared like I REALLY want it to...

I could be a real asset to my son and his girlfriend...I go SUPER deep when I want to understand a certain subject...but the years of being told to shut up when I hyperventilate with knowledge, I'm worried I'm going to come across being weird and not get listened to...and to be fair that really is the situation.

How the he'll am I suppose to help when internally I'm have a raging war going on...? I know deep down I can help with there life struggles, just too many negatives floating around in my brain...fml

[beachlover25]

One thing I've learned as a parent who has ADHD is to let them come to you if they need help. They also truly take in advice you give even if they seem to be annoyed with your knowledge on things. Also, blanket statements leave room for them to ask questions. I understand your struggles.

[Pro-masker in reply to beachlover25]

This is true and I feel like that...if they need me I'm here!...I can sometimes be a little unapproachable hench me hiding away everytime I'm going through the emotions of adhd...ive had long conversation with my son and since then it seems like he's getting worse...this is quiet normal as the more your adhd is brought to light the more the mask slips, so I know how he's feeling...I just wish he would listen to me more often...he's making some pretty sh***y decisions at the moment...I want to help but then he'll go all adhd on me and it triggers me which results in us banging our heads together and is counter productive...I'm trying my best to find common ground, it's not easy 😮‍💨

[Khyson2019]

I can completely understand having ADHD has been our gift and curse. The gift we learned everything in life the hard way so we tell ourselves the lie/story. "If I just had this information sooner I could be so much further along in life." Nope, we Hate being told what to do. The curse is, we believe we can just save people. (Even as I type this I can't stop myself from wanting to help). Lol.

Looking back there where 2 things my parents did really well in shaping my behavior.

1. Put me around positive environments and people I could model. Watched inspiring movies. As a visual learner it's easier to model the behavior.

To this day I drive my middle schooler an hour away each day for school because the environment at the local schools are toxic.

We emulate what we see and who we are around.

2. My dad used reverse phycology. Not sure if it was international or unintentional but it worked. I was hell bent on proving them wrong. ( His delivery was in a joking kind of way) but it was just enough.

He would say, "Are you about to cook, you don't know how to cook". Smiling and laughing. " okay, let me taste your food"

To this day I love cooking and all my family and friends invite me over their house to cook.

He did it with everything, cleaning, school, sports, painting, parenting and pretty much everything he wanted me to excel in.

As you already know not all kids are the same. For example these methods work great on my 13 year old, but my 17year old only responded to putting him in positive environments. He didn't like being told he was incapable.

Still learning on what works and doesn't work for each personality and each season of life. Lol

I hope this helps some, they are lucky to have you because from your post it sounds like you truly care about them.

Thank you for sharing