TW Anorexia
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My daughter is developing anorexia. This seems to have come out of the blue. At the GP she revealed having problems with eating for 3 1/2 years. She has had body image issues for 2 years and ruminated about this crying herself to sleep. She believed she might have lipodema and I took her to the gp twice to be told it isn’t. I got her a referral to wellbeing but they never got back in touch. In the meantime she had counselling at school but only went to two sessions, she said this was because she doesn’t like talking. She has wondered about adhd because of my experience and we’ve tried to get a referral but it’s been difficult.
At the age of 15 I started to develop a poor relationship with food. (I reckon this was hormones plus a boyfriend told me I was fat…I wasn’t…he was very thin, so maybe I looked fat!) after trying to count calories It developed into binge eating over the years. I identified it as feeling out of control emotionally when I was 20 and had counselling with EDA (now called BEAT) Here I talked about eating to stop me crying and felt it was connected to my dad leaving. I also went to groups. I didn’t really get a better relationship with food. I always felt quite lost. At 23 I went to the Gp and was put on antidepressants. These definitely helped but by age 43 I had had enough of struggling and looked into ADHD. I was diagnosed at age 45 and treatment has definitely turned my life around.
I don’t ruminate like I used to. I have a healthy relationship with alcohol. I have a good handle on my relationship with food albeit a bit random!
My question is… if it’s ADHD causing my daughter problems is it imperative considering her eating disorder is developing into anorexia that this is identified as a matter of urgency…would adhd meds give her the mental capacity to calm and engage in treatment quicker than what treatment she will hopefully be offered through BEAT/GP
thanks for reading and if anyone has any advice on how as parents we can help her please guide us. She is engaging with us and my husband is fantastic at helping her to open up. She’s said she’ll no longer go three days without food…this was after ringing us from her bedroom in the middle of the night. She said she felt like she’d be a failure if she couldn’t get through to the next day of not eating but wanted to eat because her stomach hurt so much…this was perhaps one of the worst nights of my life…knowing she’d been laying in her bed for hours battling with her mind and physical symptoms of starving herself. I hope this experience has made her not do that again (3 days…she’s still doing two days and then eats a small meal) but I’m so frightened the eating disorder will be stronger and as Ive said if she has ADHD will it make the battle even harder to fight it.