It was so bothersome having self deprecating thoughts EVERY DAY.. FAILING AT NORMAL.. was humiliating for a mother and a wife (at least I was (my husband got fed up cheated on me and left me with two children... That's another post)) .. chronically and constantly feeling like I was at war with my mind...
At first I thought having an ADHD diagnosis was humiliating but now it's liberating because I feel like I have some kind of direction...
And even though I have to battle my thousands of thoughts... my Omniverse personality ....my ability just to get s*** done... Thanks to this forum and the therapies of getting I feel a lot less alone and a lot more grounded so thank you guys for existing.
And even though everyother day seems to BE SO DAMN HARD (for me)
I just want to say we all are awesome.NO MATTER WHAT... We're just uniquely awesome in our own way which makes us special and awesome...YES ALWAYS REMEMBER... WE ARE SPECIAL-AWESOME.
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This is so relatable. My husband is NT and with me having recently been diagnosed, I still think he doesn’t get it. He thinks I’ve been doing worse since my diagnosis, and I don’t know if he’s right.
More likely, you've been more honest about your interior experience since diagnosis, and he had NO idea that what you were going through was far, far worse than what he thought you put him through.
Yes the benefit of knowing what's wrong with you means that you get to identify it more readily than you used to before when you didn't know what was wrong with you.... But with identification for some might come off as complaining for others... Hence the making you worse off... What people don't seem to understand if there is a treatment curve especially when you're newly diagnosed.... Trying to figure out which drug treatment and therapy treatment works.... having weird side effects it's really hard.... And sometimes hard for the person who you've been with for a while who see these as perks you have to grow through... And stop playing victim at... Fortunately people who think that way are typically normative and can never understand the inner turmoil of dealing with this.... Ironically you'd have to cultivate more patients with dealing with them and pushing back low inner thought than anything.... I think you're strong enough to do it but just in case you don't have support ....remember we're here
PS sorry for any faux pas I'm voice to texting this without my glasses lol
I personally feel like I leaned in to my diagnosis at first - I was kind of figuring out my new identity. After months later I was able to step back a little. It’s a perfectly normal part of processing something like this.
OMG, I have been leaning into my diagnosis as well! I thought of that the other day. I was getting so forgetful, Lazy, more hipper sensitive and stop my artistic endeavors! Thank you so much for saying that! I am going to straighten up, grow up and get my act together! One step at a time! Thanks again! 🤗
Normal isn't healthy, so I think failing at normal is a good thing. I'm still learning to embrace the gifts of ADD and attribute them when I achieve something---and to not just acknowledge ADD when I've forgotten to do something or have lost focus.
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Does anyone else feel like they fail in Adulting? 
Sleep issues and ADD. Is it normal?
Will I ever be like a normal person?
Why is it so hard to get help for something that impacts so much?
