Has anyone been in a Toxic Relationship? How did you handle it? Does ADHD have a factor to be treated this way?

[jeeplady372004]

It’s important to make sacrifices in relationships but your happiness, self-esteem, and self-respect should always be on the list – always. If a relationship is built on love, it nurtures, restores, replenishes, and revives. It doesn’t diminish. It isn’t cruel and it doesn’t ever violate a warm, open heart. Everything you need to be happy is in you. When you are with someone who suffocates those precious parts of you, be alive to the damage they are doing. You owe them nothing, you owe yourself everything. You deserve to thrive and to feel safe, and you deserve to be happy. Choose your own health and happiness over their need to control you. KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH.

These texts are not love.

1. You are so g*d down stupid. F*ck you!!!!

2. You stupid B*tch. Done talking to you.

3. You don't love no one but your F*cking self.

4. I have tried and you aren't fixable

5. I don't love you anymore You have ruined that for us.

6. This is all on you. You brought this on yourseslf. Your nothing but a bitch. A g*d dam bitch

[MrsKlco]

I have been in a toxic relationship when I was in my 20’s. The relationship became very dark very fast so I was out. For the next 10 years I had severe anxiety (PTSD) because of him stalking me for over 2 years. 3 arrests and a threat to take a gun and kill himself if I did not come back to him. Now, figuring I was going to be on the nightly news anyway...had one request for him... “don’t miss!!” I can make fun now but truly I was poops’ my britches that day!!

With the examples that you have...NO, this has nothing to do with ADD/ADHD. If this is truly the conversation that is ABUSE!! No questions!!

[jeeplady372004 in reply to MrsKlco]

MrsKlco, Thank you for your reply. Not sure why I question myself. Those ae truly the conversation. Thank you

[MrsKlco in reply to jeeplady372004]

Because we ALL do!! I was blessed to have a therapist that specializes in ADHD and she has helped me to see balance with good, bad, and who I really am. SHe has saved my life several times!! Serious, so when you asked that...that was a question I had her.

I am so happy and proud of you for posting that question....keep them coming.

Renee

[jeeplady372004 in reply to MrsKlco]

Thank you so much. I have a therapist but I am not sure she is helping much. I have started seeing a coach. I hope it helps.