Let me start by stating that it is my partner and our 11 y/o that have ADHD but I though this would be a great place to look for support. If I made a list of struggles it would become too much, but I am trying to tackle a big issue: household chores.
I have done a fair amount of research and reading to help me understand and work through certain issues that are common with ADHD. No surprise that chores came up and in the end, after conversations with my partner, I asked her to come up with a game plan we could start with. I had read a lot that says the non-ADHD partner should not be in charge. The subject is always a rough one in my household. I am constantly moving and picking up and get the same question time and time again "What can I help with?"...this question now comes from my partner and her child. Now, this becomes a very loaded question. If i say something I will often get push-back that they don't know how, or it was done last week or they want to finish what I am working on so I can start another task. This doesn't work for me. I feel that delegating tasks becomes another thing on my plate and I already do the bulk of the household chores. I find it less stressful to just get things done myself but then resentment grows as I become a solo worker.
How do I get everyone on the same page? My home is not spotless, nor do I expect that. Dishes not 3 days old are nice, a clean toilet is great and someone else to take care of the pets without being prompted would be awesome. I recommend articles to read and tools to look into but there is never any follow through....help!