counseling

[kanzler1987]

Good Morning All,

I haven’t been on here for a while, been dealing with my own mental health so. But anyways this isn’t about me this is a group of parents who help other parents with their children. So my question is; I want to put my 10 year old daughter into to counseling, my partner and I have agreed on it, but she doesn’t want too, and I don’t want to be that parent who forces my child to do something they don’t want, that was how my childhood was along with my partners childhood. So my question is are there any parents in here who have any tips, or tricks, anything that can help me with my decision for her best.

[Peerandparent]

individual councelling for kids with adhd has mixed results even if the kid is engaged.

Instead, parent training and education can be a powerful tool. Also encouraging your daughter to educate herself as well.

I recommend that one of your first education stops is the stages of change model, and motivational interviewing. This could help you in connecting with your daughter and more effectively steering her toward change.

Also do your best to find outwhat she does to respond to problems she encounters, and understand why she chooses certain strategies over others. The better you understand that, the more likely youncan be effective in engaging in conversation around therapy, and be able to sell it in a way that she can buy into.

[woolfarmer]

Individual counseling for adhd at her age is not supported by research. It could be helpful for other challenges however, anxiety, social, self esteem, etc. If you force counseling on her without buy in, it could result in frustration for all. She may be interested in trying it when she’s older

For addressing adhd at her age, parent behavior management or parent skills coaching is an evidence based intervention (but make sure provider is trained in a program that has shown effectiveness). It could also support you in putting on your oxygen mask first so you can respond to your daughter more effectively. Connection and compassion goes a long way with these kids (and all humans really

Best wishes to you and your family!

[Knitting20projects]

Maybe you can tell us what behaviors or emotions you’re seeing? Then we can help assess what options might help?