I am interested in connecting with other families who have adopted and their child has been diagnosed with ADHD/ODD? My son is 10 years old and adopted from South Korea. I just met another parent who has two boys adopted from South Korea and both have mental health issues. One therapist suggested that an adoption is a traumatic event which can be a reason for my son's "fight or flight" response.
My son was in foster care since birth and we adopted him at 11 months so he doesn't have any recollection of his adoption. we don't have any medical history of his birth parents but we suspect mental illness in one parent.
For a year, our home life has been extremely stressful since he started exhibiting all the signs of ODD. He has a privileged life and a supportive family, and we can't understand why/how he has become a rude, disrespectful, angry, unmotivated person who cannot communicate to us what is making him so unhappy.
Any advice/thoughts would help.