So we are continuing to walk a very careful line between what is adhd and what is a 10 year old being 10 figuring out his limits and testing independence! I am not trying to criticize but it seems so many posts on here result in advice that is, it's just the child's ADHD and they can't help it! I do agree there are many common problems we all seem to face involving our children's ADHD i don't think this condition is responsible for each and every issue that comes up! As i continue to figure this all out im starting to realize there are time i need to hold my son accountable for his actions and mistakes and understand that not everything he does or doesn't do is ADHD related! In the beginning i pulled all chores and responsibilities at home and any extra expectations at all that were not school related, because after all he has adhd and school was so much to handle how could i possibly expect more of him!? Now looking back i realize what a mistake this was, not only am i in charge of building his self esteem and confidence i also am responsible for teaching him how capable he truly is! My question is do other parents find themselves letting there kids off the hook? Or blaming adhd for each and every struggle? I began to think about parenting my 8yr old (who does not have adhd) and realize she gets away with so much less and i expect so much more from her, why shouldn't i expect the same from my son? Sorry for the long winded message, just wondering how other parents walk this very careful line?