Reward definitely for us. Even rephrasing to “If you a you’ll get b” from “If you don’t do a you won’t get b” has an impact. Plus it makes you look like a benefactor versus someone robbing them of something they were entitled to, and helps dodge any defiant instincts.

Here’s specifically what works for us:

A morning checklist (visual reminder)

An analog clock / time timer

A reward chart with rotating rewards

In general, I prefer to use natural / logical rewards versus giving him treats and tchotchkes all the time (it kinda drives me crazy when I see this in the schools.) Like - If you are ready early then you will have FREETIME to choose to do what you want. I had to extra incentivize the first time (I let him pick his snack for lunch), but once he really experienced having morning freetime, it helped.

For our reward chart, he has activities / chores that can earn him a check. Being ready early (before 8a) gets one check - for that immediate incentive you need. If he has 10 checks by the end of the week, he can pick one of 3 reward coupons of my choosing. We have like 10-15 coupons total, so he doesn’t know what his options will & it keeps it fresh (and I always pick things I can honor either that day or early in the week.) I do also take his suggestions into consideration - like if he really wants to buy lunch at school one day or have snack money or stay up late at a fun event.

I still need to give gentle reminders (great job making your bed - now lets see how well you can brush your teeth!) but these have helped. Mostly, the incentives are there until we can get things into habit, then things tend to go better.

Reward all the way. We even use an app on their tablets for time management. They earn time for doing different things (we establish the parameters and can reward time whenever). By emphasizing the positives they focus on repeating those behaviors

I see my son is 11 and telling him a, b c dont work. Only A will get have way done if I don't check before he go back to his video game. Just yesterday i told him to clean the bathroom so i checked it and said now you have to wipe certain walls down in the bathroom and change the garbage bag in the bathroom, and get his clothes and shoes off the steps. I never checked because it was only the wall behind the sink were the hand soap sits and the other stuff is..... EASY! WELL I woke up NOTHING was done. So with him, he have to do one letter at a time, and i have to continually check it or stay in eye shot of while he's doing it. So try saying hey i have a few things for you to do right now. So first i want you to do A. And when he's done go to B. As a kid i remember a cousin couldn't remember ABC and she always got yelled at because she never went back to ask what to do. It was never fun over there.

Good luck! Happy Thanksgiving. Oh but the next morning when I told my son Didnt i tell you to do abc he did it. It was right before he took his morning pee lol. I think if i would of said it after he started playing his Xbox it would of been the same results of not remembering what i said. And sometimes kids have so much other stuff on their minds they tune us out!

Oh i didnt answer your question i dont reward for doing what is asked. I just realized he's an intern lol and i have to keep a close eye on him. I try not to yell or be mean when i walk away and the job not done. I'm trying to train myself also to always supervise him. So these tasks and chores don't take so long.

Reward,timers and checklist along with praise for good behavior works best for us my son is 12

I have found that if I offer praise after the positive action, my son tends to try to do it right the next time. He has always struggled with getting himself ready in the morning. The one time he got up right away after the first request and got dressed without issues, he got praise. The next 2 days he was on time and actually told me "Mom, I got up on time and am ready"

Taking things away definitely does not work because he goes right back to poor behavior. The reward system does not work either because most ever week he cannot make it to the promised reward.