Hello, my son is 14 , adhd , medicated
After a year and half of trying different stimulants, that made him mean, sarcastic, angry and sad , he is on non stimulants and things are a lot better. He is smiling, happy boy, gives hugs and kisses before he goes to bed, argues less and I could say that his adhd is under control.
There is still lack of motivation in school, attention problems and impulse control problems ( he would shout in the middle of class or say something stupid or inappropriate)
Today morning he was looking for his headphones. The headphones that he had are broken,only work in one ear. He asked if he could use mine. ( he did for the entire last week and I asked him to find his own over the weekend, because I will need mines ) I said that I am sorry but he can’t use mine. Omg! I am so chip, I don’t know how to share, I don’t love him, his day is ruined etc.
He couldn’t get over it. I tried to tell him that he had time over the weekend to look for his good ones ,but he choose not to, so now he can use the broken ones. No! He got upset, didn’t want to talk to me and went to school all mad. If he doesn’t get over it , he will have a terrible day behavior wise.
I try to avoid situations that can trigger that anger , but he is 14 and need to also learn that people will not always walk around him on the tippy toes. He needs to learn how to manage and get over those situations and emotions.
How do you deal with that ?