Hello

[worriedmom16]

After a frustrating day with my ADHD son who is 8, I remembered our therapist suggested this forum. Many times my husband and I are not on the same page with how to handle his behavior so I am always open to suggestions on meltdowns, especially at home and with electronics.

[KCsBM]

I feel honored to WELCOME you (as many here have done the same for me). I have found this forum very helpful (in so many ways)... no judgement passed, support, and we all have very similar stories/experiences/challenges/worries.

We have a 7 year old boy recently diagnosed with ADHD combined type and ODD. I myself being in the medical field am much more open to treatment options.

My husband was completely closed off to treating with meds. After lots of discussion with son's doctors, my husband agreed to treating with meds. After seeing the results, he was convinced it helps!

Now, on handling the behaviors and things like discipline, we are still navigating differing opinions between us. What its come down to is communication. We try to talk thru those moments where we're headed down different paths. However, I must say it's much easier if you talk about these things before they happen. Lol. It's much challenging to figure out when you're in the middle of handling a meltdown with your child, and then feel like you're on the verge of having a meltdown with your spouse. See if you can to some sort of agreement on how you will handle things with your child. Consistency will help big time.

The use (or over use) of electronics has also been a big issue for us. Our son cant stay still to save his life, yet the minute he gets his iPad he's glued! It drives me bonkers. With daddy he gets away with more iPad time, then with me. Gentle reminders to daddy and child are often required. Lol.

Hang in there!

[starpower_12 in reply to KCsBM]

We are in the same boat. Did your son have meltdowns in school? We are not getting any relief on Vyvanse. What medications did you guys take?

[KCsBM in reply to starpower_12]

Yes, we had occasional melt downs in school. We worked with our son's psychiatrist trialing methyphenidate (Ritalin), and making adjustments to dosage. Luckily for us, this med worked. I hear that many people have and are going thru multiple meds or combinations to find what works.

[Onthemove1971]

Worriedmom16-

Welcome to the group of amazing members who are all supportive. I am sorry that you are going through this. I am not sure if your husband was there when he was first diagnosed(or if he is there if your son see a counselor), but many things are different with mothers and fathers. Of course ( I am talking tradionals roles) mothers give birth and tend to play a nurturing role and boys react differently to them. Dads tend to be the ones that do the discipline. This often causes conflict.

All I can say is no conflict should last all day.. whatever happens let it end and move on. Find another activity to do right or wrong. Life is to short to dwell on the things they do wrong.. there will be plenty of that. With children with ADHD they live in the moment and you must punish that way, it doesn't work to have long lasting punshimnet. Best is short term and be done. Move on.. even when he is super wrong..

I hope this advice helps, it was one of the hardest to get over but once I did.. life impoved.. its not worth it.

Big hugs.. we are here for you to provide you encouragement when you need it.

Best of luck.