Just Tired

[Uptowngirl12121]

Hi Everyone - this is such a valuable community. I just wanted to vent a little.

Are any parents on this journey just feeling tired?

We have weathered the nasty teachers, the disinterested teachers, the play therapy, the behavior therapy, the unconventional treatments, the medications, the school changes, the evaluations, the face-to-face advocacy, the IEP meetings, the webinars, the bullying, the complaints from educators and parents alike, and the trial and error of outside extracurriculars.

I love my child but dang sometimes it's exhausting.😰

[4travelers]

Yep! Different journey about the things we have tried but still exhausting . I sometimes think, my gosh, when is this going to get easier?

[Shamasamdrew]

My son is 18 now and while I still consider ourselves on the journey, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You cannot see it now because you are milling around in the very tough of it all, but it will be better. Today, my son is the most independent he has ever been, holds a job, and is on the precipice of going to college. We are very proud of him.

I write this not as a brag, but as a reminder that I needed back then when it was so hard, that it does get better. Hope it gives you a little something to hold on to.

[Uptowngirl12121 in reply to Shamasamdrew]

No, no...please brag more....first of all congratulations because we all KNOW what you probably went through. But second of all, thanks for sharing because it's exactly what you describe as milling in the tough. Inspiring stories are keeping me going right now.

[Doctorishmom in reply to Shamasamdrew]

Thank you for saying "it does get better." And, Uptowngirl12121, I'm EXHAUSTED as well. It's been rough lately.

[hilaryd8 in reply to Shamasamdrew]

Yes—please share more!! My kiddo is 16 and while a delightful, funny, smart kid, he’s not, shall we say, “motivated by grades.”

[Mamamichl]

I totally get that. My daughter can be a bossy little one. Luckily she is like me (have to follow the rules), and being overly social is being a good thing where we are with a few people. With us, it’s exhausting to get her to do homework and to not hate herself for being bad at writing. (2.7 isn’t that bad). We have been doing a lot of therapy and tried one med that gave her tics, so we will be looking into a gene sight test, then ancxiety and adhd meds again. She also will need ot or an iep next year.

[eva2022]

I am also so tired! I hear you. This morning I spent twenty minutes looking for something that I’m sure my son with ADHD took and put somewhere. It feels like I’m never going to be able to catch up or get ahead. Solidarity-sometimes just knowing that I’m not the only one who is feeling frustration really helps.

[Chailatte4meplesse]

Exhausted mumma here too. Its the mental and emotional struggle for me. Just having to constantly be ' switched on' 24/7. Having to plan everything so carefully to ensure he wil be able to cope. While trying to do things with his siblings as well. My brain in confuzzled!

My son doesn't sleep well at night either and has to physically be touching me to feel calm and safe enough.

He has huge school based anxiety caused by early mainstream school experiance. Was truly awful, even I had counselling after.

Solidarity to you!

[Twin13Momma]

yes, I know exactly what that feels like. And, I am the main parent as my husband is working a lot! It’s 24/7 alone. I just try hard to do something every day like walking, and listening to podcasts to take a me break. I oftentimes feel like a prisoner in my own home!!!

[Imakecutebabies]

I'm so, so tired of dealing with my son's principal. So, so tired.

It would be nice to feel understood and supported by my community, as well.

"Nobody knows... The trouble I've seen..."

[Uptowngirl12121 in reply to Imakecutebabies]

Ha! Consider yourself seen and supported. I understand because our troubles started in daycare so we switched. Then we had kindergarten trouble, then we switched, then we had more trouble, so we switched again. Then trouble started again in elementary so guess what...we switched. Sometimes the educators can work with you and a lot of times not. If you have to move to a better educational environment maybe you should. Today we are in a good place but I will do it again if I have to.

[Imakecutebabies in reply to Uptowngirl12121]

Ugh. I've strongly considered switching schools several times over the last 3 years... There are so many things we like about the school... He can bike there, there's a park and a library next door, the teachers are good and he's learned a lot despite himself. Until we have to deal with the principal, who does not understand him at all and has no sympathy for his struggles. Any day we don't see the principal is a good day. And he's just finally starting to make a few friends, 3 years in... He actually got invited over to a play date this year... Would hate to make him start over. And now his (non ADHD) little brother will be starting there, too. And then something happens, and I'm reminded how much negative support we get from the principal every time, as he asks us once again to please punish him further at home.

[MNmom99]

Yep, I feel it too. Every day, so tiring exhausted.