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[Mom2Dom]

Hi, I am new to the group and also new to online support groups. My son is 12 years old and has been diagnosed with ADHD. I’m here to learn more about ADHD and hopefully meet parents who understand what we are going through. I feel like I’m alone in this battle.

[Mama2braylen]

Hey there.. I also sent a pm . My son is 12 and was diagnosed in oct. 😥 It is a battle everyday and one thing you must know is his behaviors has nothing to do with how we have raised them, you will be the best advocate for your child . Get on board with lots of adhd reading and firmiliarize yourself with the condition. I think of it as kinda like a carwreck rection" 🚘when they act they act on impulse and can be very disrespectful, mean, spiteful 🤐and say things you would never imagine, their brain is going a million miles an hour and when I say carwreck reaction what i mean is this... BAM! Impulse..... and a few seconds later.. wth just happened.... thats how every situation,, action and thought is for them. My son will say aweful things on impulse and later feel terrible for it. 😔When his brain comprehends what he just did .Its so heart breaking. If you want to talk more I'd be happy to😁. Kristle smith

[katcald in reply to Mama2braylen]

Thanks for this. My son also has this car wreck reaction. It is terrible and I lose my temper and it affects his sisters too.

[ConcernedMomma511 in reply to Mama2braylen]

You know this really is helpful, my 6 yr old can be very disrespectful at times, and st times in public 🤦‍♀️ I didn't think it was the ADHD , I would think it was just him being disrespectful and defiant, but now I understand, I am going to control myself, and not take it personal, I usually groun him with what he likes most which is his tablet or video games, yesterday, he "acted" as we were leaving karate, don't recall exactly what I said to him, but he started asking me in a difiant way, is there a problem? Is that a problem ha? Omg, when I got to the car I said, we need to talk, I did yell at him told him that was VERY disrespectful and embarrassing, yo not ever speak to mommy like this, that he made me feel very bad, that he should never speak to anyone like this! I always emphasize to him that he needs to be kind to everyone,I said, you just lost your tablet privilege,

Surprisingly, he was ok with it, at night he hugged me , I asked him to apologize because it was very wrong what he had done,and he did,he said he can't wait till tomorrow to play and that he will never talk to mommy like that so he can play, i reminded him, not just to mom, but to anyone,I feel bad because sometimes I don't know if it's his ADHD or him being disrespectful 🤷‍♀️ J mean, I think I should adress it any ways other wise as he gets smolder he will only speak to me worse thinking its ok if I don't let him know that is not exceptable.

[Mom2Dom in reply to ConcernedMomma511]

I am so thankful I’ve found this website. Reading how other parents understand what we are going through has a lifted a weight. My son also “acts” in public and home, and I never thought it would be because of the ADHD. I always thought he was just being disrespectful and rude. I need to look st this a whole new way.

[Mama2braylen in reply to ConcernedMomma511]

Wow sounds like an exact situation i just had w my kiddo. Ill elaborate more later

[Jayden17 in reply to Mama2braylen]

Hi

I would to talk to you, do you live in nyc?

[Mom2Dom in reply to Jayden17]

I do not live in NYC. I live in Indiana.

[anirush]

Keep reading posts on here, lots of good advice and feedback.

[chicagodad]

Not alone at all! I also have a 12 year old with ADHD, impulsivity. This forum, along with therapy for my son and myself has been critical. We take it day by day. Hang in there!

[Mama2braylen]

disabled-world.com/disabili... came acrossed this websitr snd my son has all these symptoms its wild.. and helos my mind that all of the hell i/ we go threw is his condition.. must look

[Cjlyn]

Wow sounds exactly like my son. Some days I cry and asks why and other days I am thankful he has me. I would love to chat more, any advice

[Mom2Dom in reply to Cjlyn]

I would love to chat more also. I am slowly learning that there are so many other parents and children out there who are going through the same things. We need to lean on each other for support.

[Cjlyn in reply to Mom2Dom]

Absolutely!