Parents are not interested

[Rak1]

My parents don't seem to care much about me, they never start conversations me and never want to know what's going on my life. I feel like I have to tell them everything about my life which I hate doing because I'm a quiet person but I don't know what to do. My parents don't understand me, they never talk to me.

[Hidden]

Oh dear Raki. You sound very young - can I ask how old you are please? x

[Allestklar123]

Hi. It's really hard when you don't feel cared about. Sometimes it's hard being a quiet private person. I wonder if they realise how their behaviour is impacting on you. I'm a parent and one of my children felt unsupported and ignored. He became very upset and got very angry. It was only then that we could deal with how he was feeling. I was upset to think I hadn't realised what was going on. I wonder if you feel brave enough just to say something to them. Maybe something like "I don't feel we talk and I would like to. When we don't talk I feel....(you need to fill this bit in)". It might be helpful if you had an idea about the things you want to talk about. My mind goes blank when someone says they want to talk. :-). It sounds as if your parents are really important to you. I am wondering if they have made a decision not to talk or if it is that they have busy lives and talking has stopped. I also wonder if they are reserved people who don't talk a lot anyway. I really hope this helps. I would feel very alone if I did not have anyone to talk to. I still call my Mum and I'm a Mum myself. You can always talk to people here and even if you don't share.

Ally

[Olderal]

Hello Rak. It may be that your parents care an awful lot about you but for one reason or another are incapable of showing this to you.

It is also possible that they don't care as much about you as you would like. Lots of young people with over possessive parents would be very glad to have parents who were not nosy about their childrens' lives , and who did n't talk to them much.

Parents and children are remote from each other far more often than in picture book ideal families. As you get older you will probably not be bothered so much about this and will become more independent anyway. Both then and now I think you should make every effort to show you love your parents as much as you can.

There will almost certainly come times when your parents will need you a lot and vice versa ,so keep as close as you can , and if that still does n't seem close enough stop worrying about it. You'll have done the best you can , and who can do more?

Olderal