Hi, everyone, just a thought. I find it very useful coming onto this forum and it is wonderful to be able to express the negative stuff that we can sometimes experience.
I was wondering though if it might be an idea to have a new category on the forum. Maybe call it "Positives"; could include humour, happy things that have happened. I know we have "no category" at present and "sofa chat", which could cover it but just throwing this out as an idea. If any administrators are reading as well, what do you think?
So what "positive things" have I got to say today?
Well on Saturday I cooked a lasagna for two friends. I have realised I am often saying I have no friends or very few friends but that is probably because I tend to discount the things that I do have or more so that I wish that the friendships I had were "deeper" or "more involved"; but maybe that is where I go wrong. Maybe this is what "ordinary friendships" are; people you trust who come round for a chat and a meal two or three times a year. Maybe it a matter of how I view things in that someone else may not feel that was not enough and may feel they have "close friends". Anyway I have had a new cooker for over 6 months now but never summoned up the spirit to cook anything in it. I do not normally have people round at all so it was a big thing for me. I laid the table with a proper tablecloth and put Christmas crackers on and then we went out later to see a Christmas show. They brought me flowers and a bottle of wine. I have never normally the energy to go out in the evening but I "saved" myself and I managed it.
I am so happy that I have achieved this and that we had a nice time, particularly as one of the crackers had a game of ludo in it which we started playing.
The next day I felt a little sorry for myself for a while. My "friends" are off putting up their Christmas tree today and have lots of stuff planned for their future; they were all "couply" together but then they are a couple. But then I thought how about trying the "glass half full" approach. They did come, I did cook, it did go well and it may not be all that I want but I am not entirely alone and have managed to build up a certain "level" of friendship so I should not dismiss that.
What does anyone think about a "Positives" category? Some people say they haven't been on here for a while because they felt better but would it not be nice to come on here anyway and to have a range of stuff we can refer to including when we are feeling a bit better?