What do I do now? Help me please!

[LexiLee]

I am so lost tonight. My anxiety and depression are getting the better of me. I found out that the person I love and want to spend the rest of my life with cheated on me. He got drunk at the bar tonight and told me everything. He says he doesn’t want to make things work and that it’s my fault he cheated. I feel so unloved and betrayed. I know this is probably gods way of telling me I need to get out of this relationship. Because God has been showing me he isn’t good for me but I refused to see any of it. I forgave every lie, every time he was hurtful to me I would apologize, I did anything and everything to try to make him happy and be good enough for him. But I guess God made him hurt me so I have no choice but to let go. But still knowing this deep down, I continued to grasp at him when I knew he left me a long time ago. I almost feel better forgiving him for the cheating and the emotional abuse compared to the alternative. That I let this happen to me knowing full and well what I was getting into and still I stayed and fought. I don’t know how I’m going to wake up tomorrow and go to work and go through the motions of the day knowing I’m alone. I just don’t know how to do it.

[wobblybee Administrator Pioneer]

🤔 Lexi, I’ve known myself what it’s like to be at absolute rock bottom, you feel cornered, lost and see no way forward. But to honest about this, the answer lies in your own hands. You have to take some positive action of some sort. Whether it’s speaking to your GP and getting some antidepressants to help stabilise your mood, so that you’re better able to see the situation and deal with it logically, or just leave.

Things aren’t going to change unless you can deal with them in a less emotional way.

I’m sorry to seem so harsh. ((hugs))

[sweetsusie]

Well, LexiLee - Had a boyfriend just like him...he's probably cheated on you many times and you just don't know about it...he's a liar and a loser and you need to kick him to the curb. It took me FOUR years to get rid of mine and I've never been happier. Please don't waste anymore time on this creep...the good guys are out there, although they're few and far between, of course. You're never going to be happy in this sick relationship...sorry to be so straight with you here, but you need someone who will be HONEST with you!

[Loonytuna]

LexiLee, Im so sorry that you are going through this, but if you know that God is in control of it all, you need to look to him for the answer's (proverb's 3:5&6) he know's you and what you need right now is him. Open your bible and ask God to open your eyes and speak to you , and he will. I will pray for you!

[kv3011]

Hi Lexi. I’m so sorry this happened to you! This situation can definitely make you feel so alone. I want to tell you that you are not! You have your son, you have everyone on this app. We all know the pain you feel.. that’s why we are on here. This is a place to connect with others. I hope to see a post from you soon.

[Rose4me]

My dear chillax you will be fine he’s not the right person for you,if the right Man comes he love you more then you do ,happy yourself try and make urslf happy God’s in control of everything you’re going through now He know the best For and Just keep Thanks to God that he is gone and your soulmate is coming soon everyday just say “Thank you God for new day and new blessings “ and you will see what God can do x

Come on I have been through a lots, my side story ! We almost got married and God Reveal to me that not him is ur husband I was like God why not again I ignored and started buying things for the wedding OMG this man went back home and married different girl with the things we have bought hm you can Just imagine! Hon free you mind ur time will come when you cough the man of ur life will even wake up from his sleep to give you water okay it is well x

[Fola]

Dear Lexi, sorry for all that u re going through. Try to put urself first. Make a list, plan and do things that will improve u, ur state of mind and appearance. Get ur confidence back and above all pray. It’s better to be alone than be with someone that gives you heartache. Affirm to yourself daily that u re beautiful and worth it. Find good friends and in no time U will be over him.

[Lou62]

You need to start looking after yourself this relate is not good for you anyway you don’t need a man to make you feel loved or good about yourself. Your anxiety won’t get better staying in a destructive relationship. It will make your anxieties even worse, you need some help see your doctor and I could highly recommend meditation for you to deal with inner feelings. Also you need the support of your friends and family. You can and will live without this man he is so bad for you emotionally mentally and is toxic to your wellbeing. Finish it for good. It’s nothing to do with God. It’s your life your choices your decisions. Remember that you are in control. God doesn’t try us with these things. We make our own life. I am a great believer and have a strong faith and honestly you need to let go and get better. I hope this advice comes in useful. My daughter works for mental health bipolar Scotland and quite honestly loves her job however listening to her has given me insight to mental health . There is lots of support out there but you need to look for it. Iv had a life and a half in my past and trust me with my advice. Wishing you all the best Start to love yourself you deserve that first!

[Lou62 in reply to Lou62]

Also just to mention I was married to a man for 10 years had two small children and he cheated on me gave a a VD disease and I got rid of him. Best thing I done he done it once to my knowledge but for me once was enough to put him out yeh it was hard I had to go to social security for money I had to raise my children on my own but it was the best decision and action I made I also met another lovely man 2 years later when I got over that trauma and have been married for 26 years now he’s faithful loyal and lovely and if I didn’t get rid of the rubbish I would never of met him so you think positive and remember to learn happiness love yourself before entering a new relationship with anyone 👍

[Mum2N]

Oh Lexi, I can hear the pain in your words. You must feel so betrayed, and isolated. And for this to happen at a time when things aren't 'normal in the outside world too must be so hard for you.

I, too, would recommend going to your GP, and seriously consider Counselling. When I was in a time of crisis (not dissimilar to yours) the combination of a mild anti-depressant and talking therapy worked wonders. The beauty of seeing a therapist is that you can lay out all your feelings in a confidential, non-judgemental safe space. It can't change what has happened but it can help you work it through

I wish you all the best, and lots of love