My boyfriend broke up with me cause i have anxiety

[tabtab]

I need help, ASAP. I have 29 years old and 7 years ago I have diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I have been in psychotherapy treatment and now I have many tools to improve my life, at work and with others. Unfortunately, a few months ago I faced the death of a relative and my disorder worsened. I am more irritable and not very tolerant. I have a boyfriend since a year and a half, but despite my attacks of anger or irrational anger have dropped, I still have unjustified episodes of anger, screaming or unjustified recriminations, which I realize days later and apologize With him for my attitude. Muy couple could not take it anymore and yesterday he broke up with me because he could not deal with my problem, although he has always known that I suffer this disorder. Today he told me that every time we fight and I react badly he does not know who I am; if I am the woman he fell in love with or if I am that angry woman unable to control her emotions. I try to be a better version of myself every day and I know that in the last year, thanks to therapies and drugs, my attacks have gone down, but I do not know how to make my boyfriend understand that I intend to continue improving and that none of this is his fault. I know that I am not in a position to ask him to forgive me or forget my bad moods, but I would also like to ask for help to know what concrete actions I can take to show him that I am improving and that with those specific changes he can trust me again. Help, me please, it's urgent.

[purposelife]

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I know it can be hard for others to understand what you are going through when they haven't experience it themselves. You would need to show him so you can gain his trust again. It may take some time but continuing working on you. When you face challenges/devastation in life, make sure to reach out for help before things manifest. Well wishes, take care

[thedoulamom]

Hey TabTab,

I'm so sorry for your situation. It sounds like you are making amazing strides to overcome this condition.

Sometimes, others are not emotionally able to be in relationships with others who have more issues than they are used to, even if they say they can do it. From experience, you may have the best of intentions and tried to mentally/emotionally prepare yourself. However, you never really know until you're in the middle, unfortunately. Your BF decided he wasn't strong enough, and that's ok. You need to be with someone who can and will stay no matter what. I think that just by continuing to better yourself instead of focusing on proving something to him, you'll be in a much better place. <3