I have just joined this morning and already feeling a little overwhelmed.
My brain is already telling me I can’t do this. I am the heaviest I have ever been and on a rare night out last night I realised this when I had a group picture taken with the girlies and I took up most of the screen (well this is what I saw). As an emotional eater this has sent me spiralling into a tug of war between eating rubbish and being healthy. Knowing what I need to do but struggling to do it because I always fail anywhere between 3 to 14 days.
Any suggestions tips to get me on the right road to a happier healthier slimmer me would be greatly appreciated 😊
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I am a lady of a certain age going through that change in life which seems to have altered my weight loss ability even more.
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Losethisweight
2025 March
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Hi and welcome! TeamAdmin will give you links to the weekly weigh-in and other helpful threads. The more you join in, the more motivated you'll feel. My best advice (as someone who started with 7st to lose and still has 5st to go), is to set mini goals. And work on changing one habit at a time. Best of luck and "see you" around the forum!
Good morning Losethisweight and welcome to our forum. You've made a good first move by joining here and together with our members you will receive lots of friendly support and advice. You will find that many of our members, myself included, have been in exactly the same position of losing and gaining the weight per the years. To be successful, in my opinion, you have to want to do it for you (no-one else), find an eating regime that works for you and have lots of support around both for the good days and the bad. That's exactly what you will get here.
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What I found easiest was giving myself small goals. In fact when I started, my aim was just to lose weight, not a number, just a loss of any size. It meant I was doing something right and kept me motivated when, to think of the 13 stone I needed to lose was just too much and in my mind unachievable.
Wishing you all the best on your journey and looking forward to seeing you joining in around the forum xx
I've just joined today too .. we could be weightloss buddies ?
I have about 50 pounds to lose i think (I'll reassess as I'm going along).
I'm just gonna do all the usual recommended stuff..more water, less calories and move my legs and hopefully it can get me where I need to be for my own happiness.
Hi cracker head, I am looking at about the same in lbs to lose overall but like you will reassess after each mini milestone.
A weight loss buddy would be great, definitely believe that doing this with someone else spurs us on and with the emotional support makes the lows seem less daunting and the highs more exciting.
After years of Keto, fasting, slimming world etc my first step is to retrain my brain to ignore the rules of the above so I can start a fresh with calorie intake v exercise. And yes more water.
It’s so easy to fixate and believe the negative thoughts but not the positive ones 😊
Yes we can definitely do this.. I feel so excited to finally honour myself by committing to this and getting to my target. We are worth doing this for ourselves!!
How are you today? I just reread your post there and I noticed you say that you are an emotional eater and I can deffo relate to you with respect to that.
I used to resort to food to help me deal with my emotions all of the time and I think it really does make it harder to stick to a calorie deficit. I will say that you can stop eating for emotional reasons with just a little bit of work.
I'll tell you what I did to start my journey.
First I decided that I had to play the long game. It was gonna take time to change my habit so I didn't rush into it.
Second I gave up sugary food.. chocolate, biscuits, fizzy drinks etc. While giving up sugar I didn't cut my calories at all. I still just ate when I was hungry but instead of reaching for a chocolate bar etc I would have some ham from the fridge or peanut butter and apple. I think not cutting calories while giving up sugar was a game changer for me as previously I had tried to do everything at the same time and it's not realistic.
Then after a few weeks I didn't crave sugar the same way (and I still don't).
Once my sugar cravings were under control I set myself a set amount of calories I could eat in a day. I used the TDEE calculator online to help with this.
I write my calories down at the beginning of each day and deduct what I eat away from that number. Once I get to zero then I stop eating. Very quickly I realised that I had to make good food choices if I didn't want to be starving each evening. So I choose good quality protein(chicken!), try to cook at home and make sure my meals will satisfy me and are something I look forward to.
I've learned to like feeling just full enough and accept that I will feel hungry before I eat. That took some getting used to but now I hate feeling too full.
When I used to get the urge to eat for emotional reasons I learned to sit with it for a few minutes before deciding whether to eat or not (I often did still eat). I think this takes the urgency out of the decision. When I did eat for emotional reasons then I would check in with myself immediately to see how eating for those reasons made me feel and if it was worth it. I can now really control emotional eating because I know the feeling afterwards isn't worth it and I've seemed to have lost the habit of it.. that's all it is - a habit.
I hope to see you in the WEEKLY WEIGH INS /DAILY DIARY so we can boost each other in this journey xx
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