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I’ve just started reading posts again after years off. Someone said something negative on a thread & I couldn’t face opening myself up to more of the same.

I find that every time I start to make progress, I shoot myself in the foot. If I lived alone, I could just not have stuff in the house. As it is, I binge eat on stuff I don’t even like. Life is stressful at a copeable level a lot of the time but a little bit of extra stress pushes me over the edge. The last few days were very stressful & so last night I binge ate: bread, peanut butter, chocolate, biscuits & more. 1 kilo heavier this morning. Some of that will be water retention but some won’t.

As I crammed another ginger nut into my mouth last night, I was thinking “you need to stop, you don’t even like ginger nuts” but it was like being an automaton. I couldn’t stop.

Any ideas other stress eaters have found useful?

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ary88Restart June 2024Restart July 2023

We are all different with different problems. You could be me re the binge. I'm taking each day, to not sabotage,. If do, you then have I take special care of myself following the binge to understand and carry on with my definite positive menu plans and enjoy my meals, which I find I have to put the time in and prepare what I've planned.,and make sure I enjoy it. If not, something different maybe beans on toast or fillet steak, no matter.

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Frenchfields2024 January

I had this problem a lot years ago, once ate a whole big packet of chocolate digestives even though I was feeling sick halway through. Occasionally it creeps up on me but its not usually sweet stuff, cheese, quiche, that kind of thing. My family have a strong history of type 2 diabetes and associated complications so I started really moving away from sugar and other 'empty' carbs some years ago, started label reading . It wasn’t easy so initially I cooked substitute sweet treats, tons of recipes available. With regard to having to buy these things for others my advice is don’t. If you are the shopper then just don’t buy them. If someone else shops ask them to keep their sweet treats away from you -in a plastic box for example away from the kitchen. If you can share about your bingeing/self sabotage with your family then that would also help -difficult maybe. My final suggestion is don’t weigh yourself every day -I weigh once a week, same time, same day, our weight will fluctuate daily anyway and weighing after bingeing is just loading on more misery. Hope you have a good week.

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motherofboys1kgRestart April 2024

I could have written that post. I settle into a routine by myself by keeping those foods out of the house, then my university age sons return home, those things come back and I lose it. Life has been very stressful over the last five years, which is how I got to my current place. I know I need to find other ways to relieve stress than chomping on rubbish in the kitchen. Getting outside is one good option for me - but isn't a great option when it's dark cold and rainy. Doing embroidery also helps - as I get absorbed and can't do it with greasy hands. What would your best distractions be?

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PhilfranVisitor in reply to motherofboys

I wish I could still sew but arthritis in my hands gets in the way. I’ve found it helps to ‘block’ activities. If I can spend most of the day doing one thing, getting absorbed in it (eg gardening, sorting out the attic) then hours can pass. If I have to stay aware of the time because I need to do something else, then I lose focus.

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