Self sabotaging behaviour or just lacking motivation ..?

Not even sure why but yesterday was a complete disaster in the evening, the last week has been a slippery slope but I always managed to regain control before things got out of hand but last night idk why I completely tumbled down down down and had a major binge after dinner.

Over the couple hours I had ...

4 sesame snaps packets so (12 actual sesame snaps), 2 fun size packets of chocolate buttons, a small ish Victoria sponge cupcake and like 15 cocktail sausages.

nothing has really changed to precipitate it, other than starting to read a self help book - but I haven’t actually gotten to any of the exercises. So very worried that when I do it might only get worse... if that is what triggered it...

This is my first major disaster in the last 2 and a bit months since I started this journey and I know it’s never going to be all plain sailing, but feels a little self sabotage-ey to me as I’m so close my first big milestone...

Just feeling a little disheartened mixed with annoyed 😒.would love to hear any strategies you guys have on how to pick yourself back up..? And regain motivation and excitement when everything’s gone to pot! Xx

[smartoak 3kg]

Aw that is so gutting. And it’s so easy to convince yourself that it’s all about weakness, failure and not being deserving of a healthier and stronger body - which on another level you also know is rubbish!For me these cascades happen after one unforced error, usually a combination of being tired and eating sugar. One sesame snap would be enough to set me off in a similar way. Because what harm would a second one do?

My only reliable technique is not to have that first sesame snap, or the evening goes to pot. I’ve done months without snacks, didn’t miss them, was happy and losing weight; now I’m snacking again I back myself into these dilemmas on a regular basis. Are snacks even worth it?

[Hidden in reply to smartoak]

Thank you for your support smartoak . Yeah it totally was a domino effect that’s for sure. Yea I haven’t been having snacks either so this was a weird anomaly - that’s what I’ll chuck it down too 😂. I know!!! Are snacks aren’t even worth it indeed!!

I feel it’s just a way to release my nervous energy so I should just go for a walk really!!

Hope you get your snacking back on track x

[gman1961 Host]

I'm sure we all have blips along the way ,a recent post said the same thing .I asked them what would you say to others on here asking the same question?

It's done and you will come back even stronger , at least you are honest and have been able to post what has happened.

Easier not to say anything when it's gone wrong.

Gary

[Hidden in reply to gman1961]

Thanks for your support gman1961 , it’s true I would say it’s okay, and to keep going and these things happen. It’s true, I am learning to accept these things and not add any guilt of shame to them - which tbh is a Big lesson I’ve learnt more recently x

[Lytham 3 stone]

Awe drat ! I really feel it for you ! I don't know if it's true but I've heard that sugar and carbs creative spikes and slumps that can lead to cravings and binges? I've been low carb for two years and can honestly say hand on heart I haven't had one binge (apart from wine! Lol) so maybe it is true?

Offering you a leg back up on that slippery ole wagon, you can do it hun, you've done it before! x

[Hidden in reply to Lytham]

Thanks for the booster up Lytham hopefully can hold a grip and just let the wagon tumble off the cliff 😂 x

[Lytham 3 stone in reply to Hidden]

You draw a line under it and start again, today is a new day and I know you can do it, hold on tight Chick! x

[Hidden in reply to Lytham]

Done and done ✅ just walking back from a run, feeling much better thanks for your support everyone! x

[Lytham 3 stone in reply to Hidden]

Yayyy ! That's my girl! x

[Hasel17]

One disaster in 2,5 months is about 1.5 % failure. Don't let yourself down because of less than 2 % failure.

It's weekend, take your time, relax and celebrate your 98.5 % success since you joined here.

It's a journey to a better lifestyle, not a one time fix and everything is perfect. (Sorry, for my lacking English)

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[Hidden in reply to Hasel17]

Thanks Hasel17 that was a lovely way of looking at it!! Have a great weekend too x

[Greendream123 in reply to Hasel17]

Very well said.

[Hidden]

purple_ums, you are not alone; I too experienced a major derailment yesterday.

Those Sesame Snaps ARE delicious. I love them and could eat dozens. In fact, I did eat many over Christmas, but Christmas and the snaps are now gone. A question: have you spend some time doing some 'self-reflection' on what you've identified as a tendency toward self-sabotage? 1 stone is a big marker to be sure. Is there something about losing weight that your sub-conscious might be trying to protect you from? Getting a referral to a clinical psychologist to talk about this might be something to consider.

You've asked for strategies for picking yourself up and regaining the excitement after a fall. Well, all I can say is that this is a new day; the only time we have is now; right here at this very time is where the comeback begins. I'm a big promoter of outdoor exercise in elevating my mood. No matter the weather or the gloom outside, going for a vigorous walk for a period of time that is right for you ALWAYS leaves me feeling pleased and satisfied.

Good luck and best wishes to you as we home in on the end of this week. Persevere!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your support and response Hidden , I am starting to see some positive changes after A LOT of self reflection... finally yay!! But still a work in progress as we all are...

I love the outside fresh air too, a friend asked to go on a park walk tomorrow actually so yes to being outside! X

[focused1 Maintainer 13kg]

I think we can all do this very easily but it is one day out of thousands more . Plan a walk out or look at a few You Tube videos . I ate chocolate last night with the 5ml little pink gin mini I was given at Xmas then a mound of salted peanuts . This morning my husband got up early and bought me a lovely Dolce Gusto coffee then at 11am another one . I sat in bed reading a book I couldn't put down . At 1pm he bought me a fruit tea probably wondering whether I was ill so at 14.30 I came down stairs having had nothing to eat and did1 hour Zumba via You Tube . I then had some fruit and Greek yogurt then a soak in the bath so I wouldn't pick at anything . Now I am sipping low cal tonic water with the juniper berries that came with the gin kit . It is now 6pm so will make us both a massive salad with some lazy frozen breaded fish but I have picked myself up from the greedy binge I had yesterday .

[Hidden in reply to focused1]

Sounds like a lovely day tho :D, where does one get such a compliant husband haha 😂

[focused1 Maintainer 13kg in reply to Hidden]

Moulded after 35 years and I make an effort to cook him decent meals ..he is a true foodie .

[Greendream123]

You managed over 2 months without any binges which is great. It sounds like you're reflecting on last night and being very mindful of it happening again which I'm sure is a really good sign. I'd say to just carry on doing what's been working so far and don't beat yourself up.

I know how it feels as I went 4 months without any binges and even started to think that maybe that was it, I wouldn't binge again, but I've really struggled since Christmas. What's helped me to try and get back on track has been seeing the weight gain - I really don't want to lose my badge! Might sound silly but that's motivated me as I see gaining weight and undoing 4 months of determination.

I'm sure you'll soon be back on track with the binge behind you. The book sounds interesting too.

[Hidden in reply to Greendream123]

100% with you on not wanting to see weight back Greendream123 , have to keep reminding myself of that! Hope the post Christmas recovery is going well! I really want everyone to achieve what they want this year! x

[Greendream123 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. I can nearly tick off day one! 😅

[Zip54 19kg]

I'm totally in awe of anyone who has gone for more than a month without 'letting go' / going on a binge - as I don't seem to have managed it. With this diet though I'm trying to work on not being cruel to myself and being accepting and loving with a gentle reminder to imagine what it will be like when I'm at a healthy weight. It has got me back on track a number of times so now I'm getting confident that I can pick up after a break. Maybe practice makes perfect eh?

[Hidden in reply to Zip54]

Thanks Zip54 i think how your respond post binge is probably more important than the actual binge tbh! I’m happy to say I didn’t spiral down 😁. That is a great exercise, I should try imagine what it will feel like to be at a healthy weight, the concept is so novel haha 😂 and a ways away.. thanks for the suggestion x

[Gio321]

Hi Purple_ums,

Are you getting in enough water? Dehydration could be causing you to snack. You feel like you need to eat more but your body could be looking for water. One way of knowing if it’s thirst is to drink a pint of water before reaching for the snacks. If you are still longing to snack after that maybe try an activity that you enjoy doing for distraction. I feel for you as I know that feeling of lack of control with food and it is disheartening. Cravings like feelings are fluid and they pass!

Good luck!

Gio321 🙂