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gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024
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Anyone else struggling ?My weight is up and down ,I know what I should do but I'm just self destructing.

Every week I say I'll get to grips with things and then things don't change .

I've started going for a long walk at the weekends ,I walk too and from the office daily .

I have a dumbbell at home and a rower not used them for ages.

I just seem to be in a rut .

Thanks for reading .

Gary

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Clematisa1 profile image
Clematisa1Maintainer1st 7lbs

Oh it's been a major problem this week gman1961 A huge number of STS with weight staying around no matter what has been tried. So you are not alone! Good to see you here today 🌈

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Clematisa1

I did lose 1lb this week but it's a constant battle and cycle .I'll post in weigh in later .

Thanks

Gary

Clematisa1 profile image
Clematisa1Maintainer1st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

Thanks gman1961 look forward to seeing you. ❤️ If you have been cycling you're amazing as it's been more like an ❄ icerink around here. We're all learning to walk penguin 🐧 fashion 😂 👍 🌈

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Clematisa1

No cycling ,a long walk has been a thing I've managed at weekends .Gary

Gizmocat profile image
GizmocatModerator13kgMaintainer

A 1lb loss is good so you are not doing so badly. Keep up the walking and maybe build up.

Don't forget to pop over to the weigh in and post the loss.

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Gizmocat

Have done Gizmocat Gary

BridgeGirl profile image
BridgeGirlAdministrator2 stone

All I can think of, Gary, is that whenever you're struggling, you talk about exercise rather than what you're eating, when the reality is that food is by far the greater contributor to weight gain. We have, and have had, members who are severely limited in what exercise/activity they can do but have successfully lost weight

Clematisa1 profile image
Clematisa1Maintainer1st 7lbs in reply to BridgeGirl

That's a really good point   BridgeGirl is making and   TheTabbyCat made a similar point to me earleir in the week when she said "You can't outrun your unhealthydiet!" as I've been bemoaning the fact that I haven't managed to get my steps in at all this past week and I have eaten rubbish or been eating out and so not being in control of what I am eating... So I must start focusing on what I'm really eating over the next few days and weeks   gman1961 🌈

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Clematisa1

Thanks Clematisa1,Gary

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to BridgeGirl

So much rubbish about ,Gary

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to BridgeGirl

Very true Bridge Girl ,Gary

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to BridgeGirl

I have no motivation for doing much at the moment .Gary

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to gman1961

It’s so hard with the weather, chocolate left over from Christmas. There are so many reasons, excuses, it’s hard to motivate yourself. So easy steps gman1961 let’s just take it easy, and hopefully get through January without putting in. 🙂

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Cockneyblue

Just started to write down what I'm eating ,hopefully that will help Looking at 1,500 calories a day .

Thanks for replying Cockneyblue .

Gary

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to gman1961

Ok gman1961 , writing down, sounds like a plan. Even one tiny 1lb will be good. I’m not asking for much. 🤞. Here’s to us.

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Cockneyblue

Heres to a good week for both of us ,see you next week ,same place .

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to gman1961

👍👍🤞🤞

focused1 profile image
focused1Maintainer13kg

I am 100% what I eat . Currently in London in a very expensive but room only hotel but sadly eating junk at odd times . I look large and feel large . Feb is the target . 3 meals , no snacks and no eating after 7 and no alcohol . Let’s see

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to focused1

Great plan focused1,Gary

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to focused1

Ok , I don’t have dinner until 7 so it’ll be after 8pm for me. 3 meals, no snacks, no eating after 8, that’s a real biggy for me! I’ll probably have a glass of red wine though, but not every night, with my dinner.

Yes let’s see 👍

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Jerry022023 December

I just had a bad week. I was doing great then when I weighed it was 8 pounds I had gained in a week. There are a lot of reasons it goes up and down. For myself, I try to look at the trend over a period of time rather than one specific weight. I hope that helped some.

Racquel 😀

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Jerry02

Here's hoping you have a better week Jerry02,Gary

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Jerry022023 December in reply to gman1961

Thanks. Racquel

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Jerry02

Good idea. Spread it out. Well done 👍

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs

Hi Gary sorry to hear you are struggling . Think that BridgeGirl makes a very good point though. You haven’t said anything about food , whether you are struggling and snacking or whether you are okay with healthy eating. During the time I’ve taken to lose 4st 7 lbs the only “exercise” I’ve done is walking round the local area - just the streets near home . Quite honestly I couldn’t run for a bus even if my life depended on it. So my weight has all come off with a healthy diet . Perhaps that’s something you need to sit down and look at . You may get ideas from the daily diary section though I’ve actually not used it myself I know a lot of members post on there. I do hope you can get yourself back on your weight loss journey before too long .

Have a good week

Sue

Alideer profile image
Alideer1 stone in reply to Familytree67

Hello Sue. What a lovely supportive response and so true…we can easily fool ourselves that extra biscuits etc don’t make a difference…when it all adds up! 🌼

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to Alideer

Hi Alideer I definitely agree with you there . I sometimes find myself opening the uscuit box and thinking oh I’ll just have another ginger thin then I realise one thin is an extra 21 calories that I might not have spare that particular day.

Love your bit below too, the bit about we’ve done it before and done it well and can do this again- onwards and downwards for us all this year.

Sue x

Alideer profile image
Alideer1 stone in reply to Familytree67

Yes, Sue…last year was tricky in lots of different ways for so many of us. It will be good to focus on getting back on track again…looking forward to our weigh in tomorrow!🌼

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to Alideer

Hi Alideer it will be lovely focussing on weight loss - I need to get health issues resolved or at least on the way to being sorted. ENT yesterday he did another manoeuvre on me as he said he must have moved the crystals to another part of inner ear. At the moment having a few issues with dizziness this morning but trying to ignore them. I’m hoping it will sort itself gradually

See you mon/ tues weigh in

Sue x

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Familytree67

Aw thanks Sue ,I know it's the food, chocolates a biscuits mainly .

At work is worse as they are present at the moment .

Yesterday I was out for the day and other people had food I didn't ,preferring to eat later when I was back home .

For me that was a start..

So today I will look at what I am eating and try to keep the choices to good ones.

Gary

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

Hi Gary

Sounds like you’ve got a good plan there. That took some willpower not to eat when others did so well done.

When I’m next hosting think early March it would be great to see a weight loss badge next to your name ( doesn’t matter what exactly) - I have great faith in you achieving this so onwards and downwards we all go joining you on your journey .

Sue

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Familytree67

March 3 I'm away but I will still post .Thanks

Gary

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to gman1961

Hi Gary

That’s good to hear!

Sue

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Familytree67

Thats a great loss. Well done. I can’t walk far atm I have dodgy knees, which hopefully will improve with the weather. Well done for sorting a healthy diet. Thank you for your inspiring post

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to Cockneyblue

Hi Cockneyblue lovely to hear from you and thank you so much. I have a bit of osteoarthritis in my knees especially my right one but since I lost weight my walking has improved slightly so am hoping with a weight loss yours may improve. I’m not suggesting you should try to lose 4st 7lbs but a slight loss may help- hope so.

Have a lovely week

Sue x

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Familytree67

Thank you. I had a knee replacement 15 years ago and feel very lucky that it’s lasted this long. It’s the other knee now. I’m sure you are right, any loss would help my knees. Time to give them a lift by losing some weight.

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to Cockneyblue

Hi Cockneyblue only guessing some weight loss may help your knee as it has for mine . No harm in trying is there. Good luck

Have a lovely week

Sue x

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Familytree67

Oh definitely. I have loads of veg tonight. I love vegetables, with roast beef. So fingers crossed for that 1lb on Thursday. 👍

Familytree67 profile image
Familytree674st 7lbs in reply to Cockneyblue

Hope to see you with a 1lb loss if at all possible.

Sue x

Alideer profile image
Alideer1 stone

Hello gman1961 …the first two lines of your post could have been written by me…until this last week. Like you I had lost the confidence that I could do this…so much of this battle is in our minds. I almost didn’t weigh in at all last Monday but the support I received from our friends here made me take a good hard look at what I was doing. I’ve been hitting the self destruct button and have regained 2 stone 2lbs and lost several badges last year.

I think you are right when you say you feel in a rut and yes, there is so much rubbish about. I cleared my kitchen cupboards ruthlessly and took any temptation into work…I left it in the staff room before anyone was about because I was so embarrassed. Now to keep the momentum going…

We’ve done this before Gary…and done it well…we can do this again. Sending positive thoughts to you.🌼

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Alideer

Aw Alideer,

So true ,we have done it before and we will do it again

I was out in the morning yesterday and I saw so many people running ,I thought that should be me and would have been me.

I will seriously look at what I'm eating and get back on track .

I look at myself and think omg.

Need for action

Thanks again

Gary

Dietbunny2 profile image
Dietbunny27lbs in reply to gman1961

I have been really heartened by reading your post Gary, and all the lovely responses to it, as it could have been written by me too, so thank you for being so up front with your struggle this week. I have lost couple of the Christmas pounds, put them back on again, repeat.... and it gets dispiriting after a while! At least I have managed last week to stop the "just a glass of wine tonight" habit, with four days dry, which is my start. Next week, ie from tomorrow, I will stop the "just one treat" twice a day (!) habit - there, I've said it now, so I had better stick with it! Hope you have a better week this week - if we are back on track by the end of the month that will be great! Thank you again for your post 👍

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Dietbunny2

Thanks Dietbunny2,Well done on doing 4 days dry ,that's a great start.

I'm just sat here calorie counting my breakfast .

I'm just realising how many calories I have been eating every day .

It's a start that has been needed .

Off we go ,have a lovely week ahead .

It's to easy not to post when everything isn't going well .

Gary

Dietbunny2 profile image
Dietbunny27lbs in reply to gman1961

Agreed, it is much easier to tell oneself "I'll post when I've got good news" or "I don't want to spoil the stats" or "Maybe I am getting too fixated on my weight"! I am a calorie counter too, when I'm doing this mindfully, and I haven't really been doing it for weeks now - I shall start the day with counting my breakfast calories too - have a great day!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Dietbunny2

Thank you Dietbunny2,Gary

PippiRuns profile image
PippiRuns6kgRestart Nov 2023 in reply to gman1961

Well done Gary! Great to start counting your calories again to get a firm grasp of what you take in. You can do this!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to PippiRuns

Thanks PippiRuns ,Gary

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to gman1961

Good luck Gary. I’ll see how we get on this week. 👍

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Alideer

it’s been a while since I’ve been on here. I’d forgotten how kind and inspirational you all are. Thank you. You help me understand that my feelings are not isolated. January is a difficult month too. Thank you again.

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Cockneyblue

You are definitely not alone with this .Gary

Alideer profile image
Alideer1 stone in reply to Cockneyblue

Yes, Cockneyblue …our forum is a real life changer and I think we are so lucky to have found it. I used to feel I was the only person struggling and to find out that we are not alone is a powerful feeling. Plus I’ve learned some great meal ideas too!🌼

Iwilldothisthisyear profile image
Iwilldothisthisyear3kgRestart Feb 2024Restart June 2023

January is a hard month as it is & having a cold spell after such a mild November & December is a really shock isn’t it.

It was my hubby’s birthday last weekend & our anniversary of getting together this weekend so I have had a couple of meals out , wine & a takeaway.

It’s scary that I can be in my weight zone I want to stick to during the week or almost & then by Sunday morning have put on almost 1.5kg 😢

I will re-focus from Monday as it’s a while before the next celebration which is my cousin’s wedding reception & our wedding anniversary in middle of April .

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Iwilldothisthisyear

Good to focus on an event Iwilldothisthisyear, I'm away in March so that's mine .Good luck ,

Gary

Iwilldothisthisyear profile image
Iwilldothisthisyear3kgRestart Feb 2024Restart June 2023 in reply to gman1961

It’s always good have something to aim towards xx

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to Iwilldothisthisyear

That’s a lot of celebrations. Enjoy.

Iwilldothisthisyear profile image
Iwilldothisthisyear3kgRestart Feb 2024Restart June 2023 in reply to Cockneyblue

Thank you xx

Eryl profile image
ErylVisitor

You don't say how far your daily walks are but you may be better off dropping your weekend walk and doing a session with the dumbell and rower as that will build up muscle which can store more glycogen which will stabilise your blood sugar and stop your liver turning the glycogen into the triglycerides which go to buid up bodily fat. This as well as keeping a tight rain on your carbohydrate consumption. Watch out for hidden sources of carbs, I recently found that the 'no added sugar' baked beans that I had been buying were packed with 'modified starch' which turns to sugar as soon as ingested.

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Eryl

Aw thanks Eryl,I will have a go getting back doing a beginners dumbbell routine tonight .

I'll let you know how I'm doing

I've just been and purchased protein yogurts and sardines

Gary

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Eryl

Daily I'm doing about 30 - 60 minutes about 1 and half hours at the weekend.I used to run 3 x weekly but not running at the moment.

Gary

MaidMarion23 profile image
MaidMarion23Restart April 20242023 May

Hello my lovely. Ahh Gary I think there's a few struggling with the post Christmas slump, me included. I've took a few tips off the gang maybe I'm not eating enough!. Keep pushing because eventually the rut will budge and you'll be back on track. You know you've got the support on here with our lovely gang. The 13s are within touching distance do you kick that rut up the jacksy MM xx

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to MaidMarion23

Aw MM i will do my best this week .Determined to drop some weight ,

Thanks again ,

Gary

MaidMarion23 profile image
MaidMarion23Restart April 20242023 May in reply to gman1961

Best of luck chick xx

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to MaidMarion23

Aw thanks MMGary

Cockneyblue profile image
CockneyblueRestart Jan 2024 in reply to gman1961

Maybe even 1lb for everyone sounds good. I have dumbbells, I’ll give them a try as my knees aren’t great atm. So thank you.

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Cockneyblue

Take care ,good luck Cockneyblue ,Gary

Mission17 profile image
Mission17Restart Dec 2023

You’re now going for long walks at the weekend and walking to and from work. That will definitely help your mental health and will show on the scales eventually. Have a great week!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Mission17

Thanks Mission17 ,I hope that you do too,

Gary

brads27 profile image
brads271st 7lbsRestart Nov 2023

Try intermittent fasting, have a watch of Jason Fung on YouTube

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to brads27

I'll have a look at that ,thanks brads27,I've done16:8 in he past,

Gary

brads27 profile image
brads271st 7lbsRestart Nov 2023 in reply to gman1961

I originally lost 3 stone doing it. If you do it pick say Monday and Thursday good fast days and just have 800 calories. On the other days try not to go mad or it will not be good

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to brads27

I'll have a look at that brads27,Thanks

Gary

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16carolann2023 December

Hello gman1961 Hello everyone. I've been avoiding this all week. Thinking I might be the only one struggling. I'd been conscious of what I was eating and walking every lunch time. I lost a pound then last week happened. One bad week personnel wise at work. PMR kicked off once I reduced my meds. Disturbed sleep with worry on both counts. And tried reducing carbs to become a carb rebel and the only balanced diet I was on was a biscuit in eat hand and a flapjack in my stomach! So back to square one gman. Little losses add up. Mindful eating. Small steps. You e done great with a loss. Look back at what you ate and see a trend there. I did. Mine was a self inflicted gain. But tomorrow is another week. Hopefully work will be easier. Hopefully mindset will be better. Here's hoping!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to 16carolann

You are definitely not alone 16 carolann,I've been eating rubbish .Chocolates and cakes the usual suspects .Thank you so much ,I hope you're week gets better .

Gary

Katydl profile image
Katydl2024 January

Gary,

My weight is very much like yours, up and down. I do have an under active thyroid Since I have long covid it makes it worse even to walk at a good pace, due to my shortness of breath.

So I joined Noom weight loss program run by psychologists, so far so good. It really is baby steps, they teach you to understand what choices about food to make and that nothing is really off limits.

It is different to weight watchers or slimming world, this is about teaching us how we think, feel and behave around food, people and social triggers that impact our behaviour. I have only just joined in January and have lost 5 lbs, by looking at food choices, made by me.

You are not alone in this weight journey. Good luck with whatever program you choose.

BridgeGirl profile image
BridgeGirlAdministrator2 stone in reply to Katydl

Hello and welcome, Katydl :)

I'm hoping you've joined the Thyroid UK forum healthunlocked.com/thyroiduk - you'll get great advice and support there, and unless your thyroid condition is optimally managed, losing weight will be very difficult.

I see from your profile that you are pre-diabetic. In a way, that makes it more straightforward in that it's carbohydrates you need to get control of. There's lots of information here healthunlocked.com/weight-l...

You'll find everything you need to join in with the forum by following this link healthunlocked.com/weight-l... to our Pinned Posts. Do have a good look around and join in as much as you can - it definitely pays off :)

Katydl profile image
Katydl2024 January in reply to BridgeGirl

Tha k you. You are right I was eating a lot of carbs and started to cut down, significantly. My problem now is not to crave sweet things.

BridgeGirl profile image
BridgeGirlAdministrator2 stone in reply to Katydl

I struggle with it, too, but the more I get into a good pattern, the easier it becomes. As long as we don't sabotage ourselves, we'll be able to make progress :)

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Katydl

Aw thanks Katydl,Well done on youre loss,

Have a lovely week ahead

Gary

Katydl profile image
Katydl2024 January

stay strong. You too.👌

16carolann profile image
16carolann2023 December

Hello. I'm afraid I've been AWOL for a few reasons. However I got an email notification from Hidden offering to create a free meal plan. Is this for real?

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to 16carolann

I didn't reply to it ,Don't reply if unsure report to admin

Gary

16carolann profile image
16carolann2023 December in reply to gman1961

Thankyou. I thought as much. How's your week been Gary?

gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to 16carolann

Not bad thanks ,I've stuck to not eating rubbish and lost 4 lbs as a result .How about you ?

Gary

16carolann profile image
16carolann2023 December in reply to gman1961

Could have been better but I've just about got the brakes on. Not a good week I realised changes at work unsettled me and I ate anything I could. I have however had a good think. Cleared out rubbish food and will start fresh tomorrow. Good luck this coming week!

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gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to 16carolann

Well done on clearing out ,Stay strong and have a good week .

Gary

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GizmocatModerator13kgMaintainer in reply to 16carolann

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gman1961 profile image
gman1961Restart April 2024 in reply to Gizmocat

Will do thanks ,Gary

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16carolann2023 December in reply to Gizmocat

Thankyou

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